- Miss Mitzie
- 7 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
FIs family is great, but we are less than a month into the wedding planning and I want them to butt our a little bit. FI and I booked a 2 week trip to Jamaica in Dec. of next year, and were planning on getting married down there. Aside from having it be a killer awesome honeymoon, it’s signifigantly cheaper than having a big traditional wedding here.
FILs stepped in said they would like to be involved (didn’t demand) with the wedding and they want it here. I had a big problem with this at first, but came around in a day or 2 and said ok I understand we will do a wedding here. As soon as I said this, the problems started.
I went dress shopping with FSIL (I love her she is awesome), and for the first time in my dress shopping experience, I feel like I found the dress. Private designer, made for you, price tag is… UNDER $1000. I was going to buy that day but I had promised FMIL that she could see the dress before I bought, so I had FSIL call her, and she wasn’t so happy. She thinks it’s to much. I didn’t buy (even though I could have save $100 for buying my first trip and brought the price down to $800ish). A couple days after that, she texted me and wanted to know the designer and model # for the dress. When I asked her why she told me that we could find it wholesale for a better price. Now I don’t know about you ladies, but I have tried on dresses that cost double + what this dress does. And I have heard horror stories of buying online, so I e-mailed her and told her in a super sugar coated way that I was getting the dress and I was not ordering it online, I would pay for it. Which I thought would chill things out, because I did it in such a way if she started a fight she would look like the “bad guy”. Now she wants to see the dress, and she wants her mother to come and see it too. I am afraid this trip together to the dress shop is going to turn into a war. I want her to see the dress, but I don’t want a gang up on me in the bridal shop, which is what I sense coming.
FI and I are looking to have the reception (possibly ceremony also) at a hotel because it would be really convenient because every single member of my family will be traveling 3 hours for this wedding. We had made a few appointments to tour a couple hotels, and then at work FI and I get called into FMILs office with FGIL, and asked if we want a wedding planner…. I don’t, at all. I worked with a wedding planner previously for about 8 months, and feel like I will do fine planning my own day, and it will be what I want. But I felt like if we said no FMIL would get mad, so we said yes. Within the hour we had an appointment with a wedding planner for tomorrow….. I come home and look at the website, and this womans style is at the opposite end of the spectrim than mine.
How do I tell the future family to butt out a little bit? This wedding is a year away and I feel like I am going to spend that year stressing out because I want the wedding to be mine…