Post # 1
Who’s having a destination wedding and getting a lot of grief about it? Are you and just your fiance going or are you having family and friends attend? We were originally planning a coastal wedding here in NC but when we wrote the budget out it came to well over $10K which we refuse to pay. Not to mention the rehearsal dinner we also had to fund. We decided on a DW in the Dominican Republic and after some stressful conversations we received the support of our parents and most of our siblings. Now all we keep getting is grief, b/c this person can’t come or that person can’t come or they can’t afford for their entire family to come or by attending our wedding they will have to push off their trip the following year.. I’m so frustrated.. we’ve told people we understand if they cannot attend but now we are hearing from family who supposedly support our decision that it’s a bad idea to move forward if certain family members cannot attend. I feel like regardless of what we decide to do no one is going to be happy.. UGH!
Post # 3
Just remember that, even if you had a wedding near home, there would be some people telling you that your plans aren’t ok because of XYZ – you can’t make everybody happy, so might as well make sure that at least you two are.
Post # 4
I’m not having a destination wedding but a few of my friends have, and I hate to tell you, I doubt these comments will go away. Unfortunately it seems to come with the territory, I think you have to learn to live with some amount of disapproval if you go this route.
Try to think of the good intent behind the comments – people are probably genuinely disappointed because they can’t spend the special day with you, because the trip is prohibitive to them for whatever reason.
Post # 5
We are having a DW with less then 10 people and having a hometown reception after. IMO its the best of both. I wouldnt ever want a lot of people at my wedding (ceremony) And I have a lot of family members/friends who dont travel or wouldnt have the $.
Post # 6
Good idea, mishelleez, could you have an informal reception for everyone at home?
Post # 7
Were having a destination wedding across the country. We have also gotten quite a bit of complaints about it, but we know that we are going to have a wedding/vacation and that those who really want to attend will find a way to come along! If this is what you really want, then go for it. Remember, it’s your day, and you can’t please everyone!
Post # 8
There’s not been much complaint from my family, but my friends have been a little ridiculous. Anytime I bring up the wedding they make comments about how they can’t come, or how it doesn’t matter b/c they won’t be there. Very frustrating.