- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
SO has purchased a ring, and plans to propose very soon.
He has 2 daughters from a previous marriage (9 & 6), which I adore.
We have been friends for awhile, we actually used to work together. we kept up with each other through email, and
I was going through a divorce, and he had just separated from his ex when we started casually dating. this was summer of 2010.
Ever since then, EX wife has hated me. I casually and slowly started becoming more involved with the children. The ex would tell them things like
“Miss Cupcakgurl is a bad person” and things like that. They would tell me that their mother doesn’t like me. I would respond with ” well, you know, you have kids at school in your class who you might not like, right? ” and try and shrug it off.
I never said a bad thing about their mother. In fact, I always said nice things “You look so pretty! just like your mommy!” and stuff like that.
fast forward to November of 2011. My SO finally gets up the courage to tell his girls that we are boyfriend and girlfriend. at this point, they already know. they aren’t stupid– but we’ve always presented ourselves as “friends”.
The girls were sooo excited. meanwhile- ex wife is constantly griping about how much time I spend with them. (Its been nearly TWO YEARS!!)
The ex wife expected to get full custody in court, but my SO wanted no part in interrupting their schedule – they have always had every other week custody.
She became bitter when she realized she wouldn’t get that, and settled in mediation. Even though SO has them 50% of the time, he still pays a small amount to her monthly- she wouldn’t leave mediation without some kind of monitary compensation.
I will also add- he pays for everything for them. clothes, shoes, anything school related– even though that should all be split. I admire him for this, because I think deep down, she probably wouldn’t provide them with the things they actually need (she’s very selfish), she also knows he will take care of it, so she uses it to her advantage.
Sorry this is so long, but now that I’ve painted a picture for you of this woman—
I have noticed her saying snarky things on FB lately. She is friend’s with SO’s sister, as am I, who lives out of state.
the Future Sister-In-Law will post something, and I’ll comment.. and then she will comment saying something snarky or belittling my post.
They are still “sisters” – and even though the Future Sister-In-Law does like me, we certainly dont have the same relationship that the ex has with her.
I feel like she is making things akward- and pulling in the FSIL- who doesnt need this drama , as she is expecting.
do I address it? leave it alone? what would you do?