Post # 1
Is it normal to have your future SIL as a bridesmaid? (My SO and I are getting engaged this year.. and this is his brothers wife who is 3 years older than myself)
She and my SO’s brother live an hour away and she is not that close with me. If we are together we chat but never really bond. I do not have sisters and although I do have friends that I would love to include in my wedding party I am not sure if I should make room for her?
Post # 3
I did – and I am really glad I did it. Not only will she be a good addition because of her creative mind (I don’t have much of one) but it also made her feel great and I like her! It gives her the opportunity to be a part of the family, especially since FI’s two sisters are in the bridal party as well. If you don’t really have a bond there is no need unless your brother is engaged IMO.
Post # 4
It depends IMO. My now SIL expected to be a BM and was a little shocked (and upset) when we decided not to have a BP. Everyone else we knew expected that she would be considered a BM (if not a MOH) when we announced that we were engaged.
However, I’ve already told DH that if and when SIL gets married, I’m not interested in being in the BP unless she really really really has to have me. I wouldn’t be offended if she didn’t ask me. This is how I felt prior to our wedding, so it’s not like a tit for tat type thing.
Post # 5
I didn’t make my FSIL one and she didn’t make me one. Have who you want as your BMs. While the thought is nice- it isn’t necessary.
Post # 6
My FSIL is one of my bridesmaids!
Post # 7
Im not having my FSILs as BMs, I have an older sister and 2 very close friends I wanted, if I had room for then I may have asked one of them. I’m including all of their kids as flower girls, ring bearers and the eldest as a junior BM though.
Post # 8
My younger FSIL is one of my BMs, mostly because she’s like a little sister to me. I adore her. The other FSIL (his brother’s wife), no, never.
Post # 9
I asked my FSIL to be my bridesmaid, and I’m glad I did; I really like her a lot! She’s always been super nice to me and made a concerted effort to help me fit in when I went to visit FI’s family, and I hope we’ll be really close for a long time to come.