FSIL a MONSTER! Help!

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

How old is the baby? I’m assuming pretty little since she is having a baby shower (a little strange that it’s after the baby is born, but that’s another story). If he’s very young, I’d cut her a little slack. I hated having other people hold my newborn (although I never yelled at anyone about it) and she’s probably a stressed first time mom, especially if she was never like this before. I’ll bet she will relax in a whlie when she gets the hang of the parenting thing. 

 

As far as your sister and the photos, I would stay out of it. Even though she gave your SIL a discount, if your sister is running a photography business she will have to learn to deal with difficult customers. Plus, the flash drive was part of the deal, so it’s your sister’s responsibility to make sure the one she gave is working. I would defer any of your SILs questions or complaints to your sister.

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

onthefritz:  In terms of the baby thing, emotions can be insane right after giving birth. I would give her a little leeway here. Perhaps her hormones are going back to normal, or maybe she’s even suffering from post-partum depression and doesn’t know how to handle things. 

For the photos- can you go over there and help her out? Or even take your sister over so she can transfer them to the computer? Sounds like maybe she isn’t so tech savvy and doesn’t know how to do it herself. Or – maybe something is really wrong. 

Also – your wedding is a ways away. I hate to say it, but a newborn trumps a wedding that is almost a year away. I’m not surprised people are more into this new little baby than your day. Once your wedding gets closer, I promise you – people will get excited and start asking questions. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

paperumbrella:  In some religions ( I know Jewish people do this), they don’t have the baby shower until after the baby is born because of superstitions. So it may not be that strange 🙂 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

I’d just find a way to get the pics loaded online for her and be done with it.  Nothing extra, just find a way for her to have the photos and let it go.  She got a great deal with you.  She does seem crazy, I’ll give you that.  How old is she?  I’d just leave her and them out of the wedding planning because it seems like anything she touches is going to get a little bit crazy right now.  You can’t make others care about it, but hopefully they’ll come around as the big day gets closer.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

i don’t understand why your sister can’t load the photos (she MUST have them backed up/saved somewhere) on a new flash drive or put them on a cd for her. that should be easily solved. 

 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I was a lunatic after I had my daughter. It took a few months but eventually I was able to get back to normal. Your hormones really are all over the place after having a baby. Top that with being a first time mom without their own place and I would be cranky myself. I would cut her some slack just don’t be a door mat. You are caving to her erratic behavior and the only one who should have to do this is her husband, not you. You didn’t sign up for it so create distance until she calms fown

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

weatherbug:  my mom isn’t Jewish, but she thinks baby showers before babies come are weird. In her eyes the point of a shower is for everyone to meet the baby.

Post # 9
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Busy bee

I would give your fsil some slack. when my cousin and cousin inlaw first had their baby my cousin inlaw wouldn’t let me hold the baby. At least she did very little. When things settled down then she let me hold the baby. 

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