- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
Well, My fiance and I anncounced our engagement in September 2011. Three days after our announcement, my fiance’s younger sister tells everyone she’s engaged too..
Quick back story on her situation- She (princess of the family) was living with a guy for 2 years, kicks him out a week or so before our announcement, starts dating someone else (insists she’s found “the one, this time”) ….we make our announcement, she dumps the new guy, and 3 days later claims she’s engaged to the guy she just kicked out.
Not the easiest thing to comprehend. We know.
We set our date immediately.. It was about a year away, time enough for our families to prepare financially, as well as for our 20+ out of town guests to prepare. My FSIL decides she must now get married 2 months before us. This upset my fiance tremendously. She has always DEMANDED the spotlight and talked down to him, like the princess she thinks she is. My fiance feels like she isn’t even happy for him and god forbid She somebody else have any attention.
We seem to be the only ones who care about the financial stress, and overall strain of having two weddings back to back when pretty much everyone from my fiance’s side of the family lives a thousand miles away.
So it is now Feb, and we’ve picked out color schemes, themes, tux & shoes etc… Somebody in the family let the cat out of the bag and she just ran with it. Our choice of colors are now hers, our favors, the very unique shoes for the wedding party.. everything that we customized to be different, she hijacked. Not to sound like a baby or anything, but we were really just trying to do things that were original and unique to our personalities.
My fiance and I REFUSE to continue on with our plans, and have been forced to change everything so we don’t look like we stole the ideas (since her wedding is before ours) We are now not discussing any details with his family because we’re afraid she’ll steal those also. It’s pretty disappointing that his family can’t be involved in the planning anymore.
Now we’re just forced to accept that thier side of the family is only able to show up to 1 of the 2 weddings.. Even worse, the guests are now forced to choose 1, the other, neither, or break the bank for both. (And they’re pissed)
This has caused so much drama, we’ve almost called the wedding off and settled for the courthouse. We love both of our families so much. We just want to have a beautiful time, that everyone can be a part of and enjoy.
Anyone been through this? Or maybe a similar situation?