FSIL insulted kitchen color in our new home

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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8708 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one.

Just because her opinion isn’t one you like doesn’t mean you need to change anything. I’d just shrug it off. Her opinion wasn’t asked for, but really, what does it change? I don’t see how anything she said is offensive (Unless she was using questionable words to describe how she felt) but I can understand why you’d be miffed.

Post # 4
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2892 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Stranger516:  don’t welcome her into your home. if she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t have to spend time there. You can also let her know that when she’s critical of something you put a lot of work into, you feel hurt, insulted which makes it hard for you to welcome her into the space that she has criticized. 

Post # 5
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1168 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Stranger516:  Idk why she would say that!? So odd! That would really irk me too. Some people dont know how to keep their opinions to themselves. I dont think either of you will ever have similar tastes (especially since her house is decorated in 95 year old cat lady style)… so I would just suck it up and say “yeah I think our styles are complete opposite” That way it lets her know, in a polite way that you disagree… and dont like her style either. If she asks what do you mean.. just say.. I LOVE this color and I think our styles and tastes vary.

Post # 7
Hostess
7630 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That was really rude of her but I’d just let it go. I’m sure she didn’t realize how much it hurt you. 

Post # 8
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Stranger516:  if she doesn’t like it who cares… She doesnt pay your mortgage or live under your roof so it doesn’t effect her at all… if you and your fiancé like it thats all that matters…. When someone appoints her god of earth then you should start taking her opinion on kitchen paint colours seriously… Until then I think you shouldn’t waste your emotions on that! 

 

Post # 9
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014
Post # 10
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Stranger516:  it was weird and rude for her to say those things, but she probably felt safe since you said you hated the kitchen. Try not to let it keep getting to you. Once you’re able to change the other things you don’t like it will all come together!

Post # 11
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MexiPino:  +1. When you said you didn’t like the kitchen, she probably saw that as an invite to express her opinion about it. But to keep going on about it was pretty rude.

Post # 12
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1864 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Sure, it’s def rude, but I wouldn’t let something like this get to me. I dunno, I just don’t let someone control my emotions too much. At the end of the day, I don’t really care that much what people think or say about me, my house, etc. Especially when so many of them are shit talkers, anyway. 

If it was my mom, that probably would’ve bothered me as I value her opinion a lot. FSIL? Eh. I like her and all, but if she didn’t like my kitchen color and was so blatantly rude about it, it wouldn’t make me feel bad about the color, but rather make me feel sad that she could be such a you know what considering she is now family. 

Post # 13
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975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Personally I’d just laugh and say “Good thing it’s not your kitchen, isn’t it!” (with a smile… cause it’s my kitchen and I don’t care if they don’t like it).

 @Hyperventilate:  “Opinions are like assholes. Everyone has one.”

Seriously, it’s true.  It’s one of the best lessons in life.  You’re never going to please everyone all the time… not gonna happen. There’s no point secound guessing something you have/do because of someone saying they don’t like it, unless they have a very valid reason and explaination.  Like “I think it’s a bad idea to make a giant thing out of fireworks and hold onto it while you light it because you could blow your hand off and that would suck.”.

Personally, if I listened to everyone’s opinion my life would be totally different and I’d be miserable.

Be who you are, like who you are, like what you like, and let other people have their opinions.  Doesn’t matter if she likes your kitchen or even if it makes her gag cause she’s dramatic… don’t feed the drama! (life lesson #2). 🙂  Just ignore it.

Post # 14
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863 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Stranger516:  Don’t let this get to you. Yes it was rude of your FSIL to say that but it’s really not that big of a deal. Maybe if she was an interior designer and she knew you were anxious for her approval it would be different, but you don’t think she is qualifed to judge your taste so you should move on and forget it. 

Post # 15
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150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Stranger516:  I would have said “well you don’t have to live here so your opinion doesn’t count”.

People are just nasty, there is no need for it especially considering she already knew you had repainted… it would have pissed me off too.

Post # 16
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537 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s definitely rude and your FSIL sounds like an ass, but there’s nothing to do but get over it.

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