- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
I’m starting to feel like my FSIL is over stepping the line when it comes to our wedding. She has two kids who will be our flower girl and ring bearer and I feel like she is totally making this day all about them, or using them to get what she wants. I adore the kids, I really do, and I’m excited to have them as part of our day, but this isn’t all about them!
We’re skiing the day before the wedding because the hills should be open, we’re already in the mountains and most of our family and friends ski and when do we all get together to be able to do this? FSIL says we’re being “selfish and unfair” because the kids will be excited to see us and we should be spending time with them.
When I said I’m got silk flower petals for the flower girl she said “oh. That’s a little disappointing, she was looking forward to real flowers”. She’s 3!!!
We’re not having a rehearsal the day before. I would have liked to but it was looking like it was going to cost around $1,500 in total so we decided it’s not worth it. We’re not having a bridal party so really, the flower girl and ring bearer need to walk down the aisle then I need to and we get married! FSIL is not happy about this at all! She again thinks we’re being unfair and selfish because a rehearsal will calm the kids down before the ceremony.
We’re taking our dogs to the resort because we love them like babies and want them in some pictures. My sister has already offered to be the designated dog sitter so we don’t have to worry about that and for the most part, they’re pretty well behaved. FSIL hates dogs and thinks they shouldn’t be around and has told my fiancé that if they will be there, she can’t go.
We have told her so many times that we’re not having a dance. We’re having our reception in a restaurant, there’s no room for a DJ and dance floor and she knows this. Yet she is teaching the kids how to dance together for the wedding and constantly sending us videos of it. My fiancé reminded her yesterday that there won’t be a dance floor and she said “it’s ok, we’ll move tables for them”. No we won’t! The venue won’t allow that!
On the dance topic, she said we HAVE to play Sexy & I Know It “over and over again” because it’s their favourite song and they “want to show off their dance to it”. Yeah, cause that’s a great song for an upscale restaurant! Don’t get me wrong, I love LMFAO, just not in this setting.
How I deal with this?! I don’t want to upset or offend anyone and my fiancé only ever wants to make sure everyone is happy.