- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Basically, my FSIL and her husband are favored by FI’s family (childish of me, I know!) FSIL has always been the golden child, and therefore her husband is now too. I’ve tried forming my own relationship with FMIL and FFIL, but to no avail. It’s always made me sad because I’ve tried so hard to fit in and be close to FI’s mother and aunts, but I feel constantly compared to FSIL.
FMIL took me dress shopping for the wedding, and the ENTIRE time she could not stop talking about FSIL’s wedding. No joke, she barely said 2 words about me and my wedding. I felt a little crushed but I keep it to myself.
FSIL got married last year, it was a gorgeous wedding. But in the year and a half leading up to the wedding, it was all anybody ever talked about. I mean, every single day, every conversation, was about the wedding. Even in the year since, FMIL is constantly bringing up how amazing it was and have you ever seen such a beautiful wedding?!
So FI & I were finally engaged and for ONCE, his family seemed to show some interest in us, asking us a few questions (and comparing our every decision to FSIL’s reception!), and they seemed sort of into it. Not going to lie, after 6 years of us getting no attention, any at all felt nice.
However now FSIL has just announced she’s pregnant. It’s her first child and their first grandchild. Rightfully so, it’s been all anybody’s talked about.
I’m not a bridezilla, I fully understand we only get one day and I’m okay with that. But to be honest, I’ve felt so hurt for years by the family’s treatment of us in relation to FSIL & her husband, that this kind of bothers me. I’m thrilled for her and sad for us at the same time, because once again she’s in the spotlight and probably always will be. I’m now preparing myself for 9 months of nonstop baby talk and our wedding being on the back burner.
This is just a rant, like I said, I know I’m a total child and being pouty and I would NEVER bring this up with FI or anyone. Just needed to vent 🙁 I can’t even say she’s stealing our thunder because we never had much to begin with! LOL
Anyhoo, that felt good to get out!