- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
A little background first. . FI’s family lives 3000 miles away. We haven’t had the best relationship, but we’ve gotten along find since I visited them in July. I haven’t really talked to Future Sister-In-Law because I’ve been busy and she hasn’t sent me any messages/texts/calls.
She got upset because I didn’t ask her to be one of my bridesmaids. Only my sisters are being my bridesmaids. I didn’t want her because she has said very hurtful things to me. Fiance doesn’t want her in the wedding at all, but I want to included her somehow so I asked her to be a reader.
She sent Fiance this message last night:
I don’t know what the hell I did wrong to HawaiiBamaBride or you, but you two not talking to me is getting really annoying. And starting to hurt me. You and I were close, best friends really, and just because I’m married and your engaged, doesn’t mean things need to change. And clearly it has, everything has. HawaiiBamaBride didn’t even think I was coming to the wedding, like, really, who the fuck does she think she is, really, I’m not coming, I’m your fucking sister last time I checked. I try to talk to you, and I try to talk to her, but you two don’t give me the time a day. I’m going to your wedding, not because, I support you two, but because, I’m your sister, and I support you being happy. I don’t understand what the hell happened to you, you have changed so much. And everyone in your family thinks this, your friends, everyone, and if you don’t realize it, then honestly go fuck yourself. I’m sick and tired of you and her living in your own little lala-fucking land. It’s ridiculous. I am the only one who supported this from day one and stood up for you, and got kicked out of the damn house. For you, and you can’t do shit for me. When I had surgery you had me three way with her, and you couldn’t have the courtesy to talk to your sister before that. When we got married, you two don’t do shit, when we got engaged, HawaiiBamaBride bitched how I took her moment. I’m tired of it, all of it, and after this wedding shit, I’m done. Until you can pull your head out of your ass, or HawaiiBamaBride’s ass or something. And realize what the hell your doing to your family, the ones that have been there since day one. Because when you have kids, and when you want your family there, we won’t be. And when I have kids, you won’t even be here because you won’t care. You don’t care about anything but yourself and I’ve accepted that. But just know that you’ve hurt the one person who has been there since day one for you, and after Christmas and seeing you, I’m done.
Okay. Let me defend myself from that email. Fiance and I wasn’t engaged when she got engaged. I called her, texted her, and told her on fb, congrats. I never thought she stole any of my moments because I didn’t have a moment for her to steal. Second, Fiance and I can’t remember ever talking to her on threeway especially after surgery. I have made him call his mom with me on threeway because thats the only way I can get him to call home if I’m on the phone with him making sure he really did it. She has never been supporting of him since I’ve known him. Even before we dated. She hasn’t tried to contact me at all for me to ignore her. She did send me a text right before sending this, but I was already asleep and responded to it when I woke up. I’ve texted her throughout the day and she has been nice to me and me to her. I did ask Future Mother-In-Law if Future Sister-In-Law was coming. Future Sister-In-Law told me she wasn’t coming unless someone else paid for it. I sure as hell wasn’t going to pay for it, Future Mother-In-Law wasn’t, and neither did Grandma-in-law so I wasn’t sure if she was coming. TUrns out Future Father-In-Law paid for her to fly here. I didn’t know that. My bad.
Anyways, I have asked her to be a reader, but I don’t really want her to be. I feel like someone who can actually say this, “I’m going to your wedding, not because, I support you two,” doesn’t deserve to be in my wedding.
What do you guys think? Should I be the bigger person (yet again) suck it up and let her stay in the wedding or put my foot down on this one?