(Closed) FSIL – to include or not to include?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: How to include FI's brother's wife?
    As a BM : (22 votes)
    76 %
    As a helper of some sort - passing out programs or something : (2 votes)
    7 %
    Have her do a reading : (5 votes)
    17 %
    Other (explanation below) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I voted that you should have her as a bridesmaid.  But my main reason is not because she’s your FI’s SIL but because it sounds like she is someone that you have a really great relationship with.  It sounds like she has supported your marriage and helped to make you feel like a part of their family.  That’s a pretty big deal in my eyes so I think you should include her in the wedding party.  And it’s a bonus that her husband is in the wedding party too so they will be able to be together all day instead of being separated throughout the day.

    Post # 4
    Member
    923 posts
    Busy bee

    Have her as a bridesmaid.  She is not only family so this would make for good family relationships, but also she has been supportive of you two. What better way to say thank you then inviting her to stand up there with the two of you on your big day.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    16217 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Do you have a reason not to include her (anything you haven’t told us)? If you adore her, include her!

    Post # 7
    Member
    9057 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    It’s a slightly different situation, but I included my FSIL even though I’m not super close to her as a chance go GET close to her, as well as I just thought it was a nice way to start off your life with their family.  Assuming she stays married to your FI’s brother, she’ll be one of the people that you share Christmases, and the birth of your children etc with for the rest of your lives.

    Especially if she’s so positive and helpful, I would make her a bridesmaid.

    Post # 8
    Member
    424 posts
    Helper bee

    If you want to include her and she is someone you like to be around, respect, and she will keep you into consideration with the wedding planning then I would ask her.  It’s your decision…I chose not to have my fiances SIL because she has been pretty nasty to me in the past our of jealousy.  Even said “girlfriends come & go..remember that.” You’re lucky your close with her & respect her….so do what will make you happy.

    Post # 9
    Member
    541 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Why not? It sounds like you really like her and if you lived closer your relationship might be closer. I asked my brother’s girlfriend to be a BM just because she is freaking awesome and our running joke is that if anything ever happens we are kicking my brother out of the family and keeping her.  If it will make you happy I would do it.

    Post # 10
    Member
    202 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    sounds like you have no reason not to include her!  She’ll be in your life forever as family, maybe even more so than that best man brother of his:-).  If you have no reason NOT to include her —- than do it!!!

     

     

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