FSIL using the same Bible verse on her invitations, etc. — Should I change?

posted 3 years ago in Christian
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Keep the verse. It just sounds like one of those times where two couples independently chose the same thing.

If you’re worried about FSIL getting upset, FI can tell her (since she’s his sister so he knows her better) what you told us: how it’s already figured prominently in your engagement since last June, so it’s not as if you got the idea from her.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

tell her her invites look beautiful, and also, just a heads up, you and FI are using the same verse a lot in your wedding as it has special significance to your engagement. Tell her she has great taste and then continue as planned. It’s such a common verse for marriage I doubt anyone will think much of it.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m yet to go to a church wedding that doesn’t use this verse so I wouldn’t be concerned. I’ve never thought anyone was copying one another – it’s a really relevant and popular verse that relates to weddings and marriage.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Lollybags:  +1 

i agree with pp, I’d think it’s the norm to have that verse, I wouldn’t think that you were copying her or whatnot. Plus, it means a lot to you and your FI. 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Keep the verse! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

whitemochi622:  you shouldn’t give up something that has such deep personal meaning for anyone. Do NOT ask her how much she plans to use it, and don’t worry if she is bothered. If she is bothered by it, that’s selfish considering you would have told her how it has played such a huge roll in your life leading up to marriage.

Don’t rearrange your wedding and spend more money to avoid hurting her feelings when your feelings will be hurt. It doesn’t matter if her wedding is first, is just one day and her day will have past and you will get your own special day. 

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