Weddingbee boards

Ok.... I don't talk about this with anyone... but I need to vent. My FSIL irritates me in so many ways. At the same time, she always acts like she just thinks I am the cats meow. Why does she annoy me??? ( I promise this is not jealousy talking) She racked up a bunch of school loans and borrowed money from my fi, married a rich guy, got pregnant, travels everywhere etc. never has to work or clean (she has a maid). Now all this would be fine... it's really none of my business, I am not nosey at all these are just things that are kind of thrown in my face.she is the type of person that expects you to drop everything and focus on her. when she was prego (not having to work or lift a finger) it was soooo dramatic. I have seen and worked with tons a pregnant women that didnt act that bad when they were on ther feet 12 hrs.  When i lost my job she kept making comments to my fi about "why haven't i found a job yet" and "she STILL doesnt have a job?"  she always offers to help us with things and won't let us refuse...i mean literally she will come help anyway and freak out if its not in her time frame or exactly how she wants it even though we didnt ASK.  she just comes across as bratty and self absorbed. she always comes to our town and wants to come over on a seconds notice when nothing is clean and god forbid it's dirty... i work 46 hrs. a week at night and I don't have a maid! I tell her we need more notice and it's like she doesn't care. I get tired of the new vehicles, trips to europe, and all the designer baby shit. lol but seriousy, when I got engaged I went with a moissanite and when she saw it (its a 1.25) she was like so surprised... like... oh... that is a really big diamond, and basically hound fi on how he could afford that.... I mean she just looked at it in disbelief! She literally tried forever to figure out where he got it and the cost etc. how insulting!!!! It almost felt like she couldn't stand to see me with a ring that could compare to her 2.0 carat DIAMOND ring.

Though at the same time there are moments where i could hug her to death! Its this crazy rollercoaster of me hating her one moment and loving her the next. I mean, she loves traveling and basically flaunting money, but did not work for a penny of it, then makes comments about me and has the attitude that fi and i can't ever afford anything so we must need her help. UGH.. am i crazy here??? am i overreacting?  would love to talk about this with some people... maybe some different opinions could open my eyes about this.