(Closed) FSIL vent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

I know that being accepted by your FI’s family is very important, but she seems like a child to me.  You’re not gonna be able to get through to her until she grows up.  So, just stop letting her know that this is bothering you.  That is why she is doing the things she is doing.  Ignore her, gush about your happiness, and let her see that she is insignifcant in your life.

Post # 4
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

She’s 19.  When I was 19 I was a total b*%^& towards any guy my sisters brought home – I was jealous.  I would just take the high road be nice to her no matter how crappy she treats you, and hope that she grows up.

Post # 5
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1638 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@AJA1128:  The best revenge against her is to be happy. Please don’t let this CHILD get to you. Just say “Hello FSIL” and let her silence make her look bad. Talk to your inlaws and engage them in conversation.Just love your FI and stop pleading with her. She may be jealous because you are prettier/more successful/thinner than her. Jealousy makes no sense.

Post # 6
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

It can be hard….and it can suck….but I agree the “kill her with kindness” and “be the bigger person” ideas hold true.  Just remember, you CANNOT let others ruin your engagement or relationship with your FI.  It’s YOURS AND HIS and no one else knows what it’s like to be in it.  I completely understand how much it may hurt and suck, but please come to terms that she (it sounds like) is purposefully being rude and hurtful.  You don’t need people like that influencing you…stick with the positive vibes and people.

Post # 7
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What does FI think?

Post # 9
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52 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I know how you feel. My FSIL sent me a text after we got engaged, but that was about it! She never commented on any of our engagement picture or went any further. She was all over another girl’s pictures (who is no relation). It just sucks when someone you’re going to be related to shows more enthuthasiam for someone else. Don’t let it  get to you!

Post # 10
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1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I would be polite and ignore her immature behavior.

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