- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
So my FMIL called me the other day and was finally showing some interest in the wedding. She wanted to know who the bridesmaids and groomsmen will be. I gave her the details. Then she asks, “Well have you considered having FSIL as a bridesmaid? It would be nice since your brother is a groomsman.” I told her I hadn’t considered it because MY sisters aren’t even bridesmaids. And FI and I are trying to keep the wedding party small.
Only my very close life long friends are my BMs. My BMs have been with me through thick and thin and love me unconditionally. I’ve met FSIL only a hand full of times; she is 13 years younger then me and frankly she doesn’t like me. I won’t go into details, but we had a tiff over a stupid facebook comment she made, I over reacted, then I apologized and she never acknowledged the apology.
I explained to FMIL that my brother is a groomsman because he and FI are friends. They hang out with each other, call and text and I hardly know FSIL.
Also FSIL has nothing in common with my friends and me. She is too young to attend bachelorette festivities (she’s 19.) Plus my friends and I have history; we have been through life together. Poor FSIL would be the 3rd wheel. Also I’ve had my bridesmaids selected since August. It’s now March! We have already done wedding things together as bridal party group.
Anyway, FI tried to talk to FSIL and ask what is on her mind. She said she was hurt I didn’t ask her to be in the wedding. Well I did ask her to help with some wedding things and she was uninterested. She told FI that she doesn’t remember that. I’ve also called and texted her and she won’t return my calls. She said she wants to be a bridesmaid or she won’t participate in the wedding in any other way.
Why should I include her in my wedding when she 1) won’t talk to me 2) doesn’t like me and 3) I don’t want her in it!
The people I’ve talked about this to say to keep reaching out to her and include her; that she is only 19 and that’s how teenagers act. That’s no excuse! Any advice bees?