Post # 1
So I posted http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/oh-your-girlfriend-is-so-lucky-youre-so-nice-sweet-cute-whatever because of the addict my FI was trying to help kick her habit.
She had backed off quite a bit after FI told her that he didn’t think her comments were appropriate seeing as how he is getting married, blah blah blah.
So then on Sunday she texts him “Hey, Can you give me $50 bucks?”
He writes back “No, I can’t. Why do you need it?”
She replies “My landlord is going to kick me out. I’ll do anything. I’ll f*** you and any of your friends.”
He wrote back “Do not ever text or speak to me ever again.” I wanted to rip her a new one but FI said to leave it alone.
Wow. We tried…
Post # 4
@SoontobeMrsA: Wow! That’s just Wow
Post # 5
That’s really sad. But since you mentioned that you dad also suffered from addiction, then you know that it is a terrible terrible disease.
I commend you and your FI for trying to help her and really hope that she gets clean.
Hopefully you can see that she is not in a healthy mental state and that she probably doesn’t even realize how unappropriate her behaviour is.
Post # 6
Wow…this girl is clearly beyond help from the two of you. You and your FI have put up with this long enough. I say good for him for texting that back to her. Crazy!
Post # 7
Seriously? You know what they call girls that provide services for money…
What a dumb beeyatch.
Post # 8
Good for Mr.A. And yeah, clearly she is a desperate and deranged person. Be happy you’re not her, and I would leave it alone. I hope she gets the help she needs, but not from the two of you…your FI tried. And clearly, your suspicions about her were true.
Post # 9
Desperate times I guess. Time to cut her off completely and for good.
Post # 10
Yeah. I think it’s time to cut ties. You can only help someone who is willing to help themself.
Post # 11
@SoontobeMrsA: wow… just… wow. sounds like it was an automatic response in the hopes of landing some cash. kinda like in the movies where you see the woman saying/doing the same thing for whatever reason (usually to get out of trouble or save someone…).
it sounds like the lady needs more serious help than what either of you could offer. it was great to try to help, but there has to be a line.
sorry you two had to deal with this!
Post # 12
WAOW. effed up. so glad he’s cutting her out of your lives.
Post # 13
Yikes, I guess that’s what desperation looks like. How sad…
Post # 14
The worst part is I feel bad about the whole thing. Like somehow we failed.
Post # 15
@SoontobeMrsA: You and your FI were so sweet to try to help her, but good for Mr. A to respond the way he did. I feel so sad for her, that she would feel it approprate to say those things. I wish you luck in keeping her out of your lives!
Post # 16
I have a guy friend who has told me several times he’s going to kill himself. Each time was when he was on some form of alcohol/drug. I know how you feel because I’ve been there so many times, but like a PP said, you can’t help someone who won’t help themselves.