(Closed) F/U: NWR: Livid does not even begin to describe how I’m feeling… (LONG)

posted 7 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Phone her. Call block the call so if your dad picks up you can just hang up and he won’t know who called. If she answers, speak with her.

Just tell her that all this wedding planning has made you think of family and all the time you have missed with her. Once you start talking it will be easier.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Call her!  It sounds like you may not have much time left to make this call and it also sounds like you will always regret not speaking to her. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper

Oh Cait. My parents are divorced too and my dad is a major toolbag. I have a great relationship with his mom and sisters though. They always treated us like gold.

How does your mom feel about this?

I say go for it. It sounds like you’ll really regret it if you don’t.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Another toolbag dad here.  And trust me, call her.  I didn’t get that opportunity and now it’s too late for my grandparents. 

And smart idea to block the caller id when you call, whatever money it costs to do that is totally worth it should you need to hang up quickly. 

Good luck and know you aren’t the only one to go through this.  All us ‘bees wish you luck & send hugs!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper

I bet your grandmother has been waiting to hear from you. I second PP’s suggestion of blocking the number.

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree, you should definitely call her. even though your dad is a major dickhead, that doesn’t mean that she should not be able to have contact with you.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Call her, even if it means having to go through your dad, and it probably will. Speaking to her and getting that one last chance to talk to her will mean more to her and you than you will ever know. You have the rest of your life to avoid your father, but only a short time to show your love for her. Trust me, you will regret not speaking to her if something happens to her and you didn’t take the opportunity.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m so sorry Honey. <33 Sounds like you’re a great granddaughter 🙂

That being said…. F**k your father and call. Don’t let him know he gets under your skin. If he answers the phone just ask to speak to your grandmother. It’ll be hard but worth it in the end. You’ll feel 100 times better after talking to your grandmother and if your dad starts anything just hang up.

You’re strong!! Go for it!! I’ll be here cheering you on “Go CaitMarae, GO CaitMarae, GO!”

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Sorry sweetness.  I also have a toolbag dad (why are there so many of them out there?  Geez!).  I didn’t get to know my grandmother until shortly before she died and I always wish I’d had more time with her.  I do cherish the memories I do have.  You will very much regret it if you don’t do it while you can.  Call her.  Don’t let your dad take that away from you.

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

Im drving home yesterday and it hits me. Have your FI call for you. That way he can just call and ask for her and then once she gets on the phone he can give it to you.

If your dad answers, he can say he is calling from somewhere else or if you think it’d work he can say he’s your fiance.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m sorry sorry you’re in this situation.  I agree that you should at least try to reach out to your grandmother. She will probably be so happy to hear from you.

@SoontobeMrsA: I think this is a good suggestion. It eliminates the risk of your father recognizing your voice and getting any nasty words in edgewise. Whatever you decide to do though, I hope it works out.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I agree with everyone who says to call!  I also had a grandmother that lived out of town when I was in college but I wanted to keep in touch so we used good ole snail mail and she loved it.  She passed away last year and I am so thankful I wrote to her.  Even just a hello means a lot.

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