Post # 1
Did you cheat on your current SO and he/she doesn’t know? Be honest; it’s an anoymous poll.
I personally could never ever hide that from my SO. I know he wouldn’t want to be with me if I cheated, so I’d feel like I was trapping him and forcing him to be with me. Also, even if I wanted to hide something like that, I wouldn’t be able to. The guilt would kill me.
So, are you hiding infidelity from your current SO? Do you plan on marrying him/her without ever confessing?
Post # 3
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
i have never cheated on DH nor could i imagine cheating on him. it would devastate both of us as we both know we wouldn’t be able to forgive the other for that. and i tell DH EVERYTHING. Even things that i think are TMI sometimes so i could never hide that from him.
Post # 4
I could never hide it. I would feel so awful I wouldnt be able to eat, sleep or look at him in the face. I would crumble and confess immediately and it would be over.
Makes me shudder to think about it!
Post # 5
I’m not! I’ve never cheated on DH.
But he knows if he ever does cheat, and it’s a one-time thing that will NEVER be repeated, that I do NOT want to know about it!
Post # 6
@MrsBuesleBee: I’m the same way. When ever I feel guilt for something, my stomach never settles and I can’t eat, sleep, or smile. I would give myself away, but thankfully, I have absolutely no reason to cheat or want to cheat 🙂
Post # 7
I can’t imagine cheating on my SO and i’m not sure that I would be able to forgive myself if I did. Full disclosure – I cheated on someone before and would occasionally be overcome with guilt and shame about it, even though I knew in my head and heart that the relationship was a dead-end. I can not even imagine how awful I would feel about myself if I were to do that to my current SO who is the absolute love of my life.
It would be interesting to hear from some people who voted for the options indicating that they did cheat on their current SO, but I can understand why someone might not want to publicly say that.
Post # 8
I have never cheated on my FI. Nor has he that I know of. I have cheated in the past though, but I will not ever be sharing that with FI, which doesn’t matter much anyway, because he never asks about my past relationships.
Post # 9
@-MONSTER-: What would you do if he asked? My SO flat out asked me if I had ever cheated on anyone, a few months after we started dating. I was completely honest with him but I know that it was difficult for him to hear. I don’t regret telling him, but he reassures me that he trusts me just as I reassure him that I wouldn’t do that to him whenever he worries about it (which isn’t often). That level of open communication has been really helpful for us!
Post # 10
I slept with someone else during the first month of our relationship, before we mutually decided we wanted to be exclusive. FI knows I got up to no good with the guy (mutual friend) but not that I actually had sex with him…
But I don’t know if FI had sex with anyone during that month…and I don’t feel the need to know. I don’t count it as cheating, and I’ve been faithful to him ever since, over 4 years now.
Post # 11
I love my SO more than anything and wouldn’t ever do anything to hurt him. ever. If i cheated it would kill him. I love him too much, nothing is worth losing him.
Post # 12
No, I have never cheated on my DH. I take cheating very seriously and I think its one of the worst things that you can do to your SO. I would never cheat on him. If he cheated on me we would be done whether it was a druken one night stand or an ongoing affair. I have no tolerance for it.
Post # 13
@adoc86: +1. I’ve never cheated on anyone. I fail to see the point. If I was that unhappy, I’d leave.
Post # 14
@BrandNewBride: Woah you are a better woman that I!! I have NO tolerance!
@IheartUFC: LOL what is the point of this post!!?!?!?!? Woah! We might find some innnnnnerrreeesssting things about bees on here!
If I was gonna cheat, I straight up leave the relationship and wouldn’t be waiting anymore on my SO to graduate to get married, screw that, ON TO THE NEXT ONE!!!
Post # 15
@MrsBuesleBee: Same. I wouldn’t be able to hide it even if I wanted to.
Post # 16
@Sassyfras27: I would tell him the truth of course, that it was the one time right after high school. Although I really don’t think he will ever ask, he’s the kinda guy i guess, that doesn’t care to hear about anything past relationship wise, from his side or mine. I’m kinda in the same boat.