Post # 1
I know that there are several of these threads already, and hopefully I’ll be able to get some helpful advice as well. Bees are the best at this!
I’ve always been very confident and comfortable with my weight. My FI loves every inch of me and makes me feel great. I LOVE dressing up and rocking my curves. However, for some reason I’m still freaking out over the idea of going wedding dress shopping.
For my ceremony dress, I want something traditional, formal and elegant. When I dress up, I usually dress in styles I’d call cute/playful, not elegant/timeless. I have no idea what would look flattering and I’m scared that a sample size dress “clipped” to my shoulders will not look great ON me when it comes in. It’s hard to take a leap of faith.
Any full figured ladies care to share pics of them in their wedding dresses? I’ll admit, I have searched around on similar threads already for ideas. hehe Any tips on what works best for curvy gals? I always wanted a ballgown dress, but I’m afraid it will make me look ridiculous. If it helps, I’m 5’4″, 260 lbs., size 22/24. Sorry for big images!!
Thank you so much for your help/input! I know the experience probably won’t be as scary as I’m making it out to be, but I’m still scared.
Post # 3
@Ms_Pinoy: I understand the feeling. I was worried about how dress shopping would go too, since I’m a size 20. But I went to an Alfred Angelo signature store, David’s Bridal and an independent bridal shop and was able to try on many different dresses. I chose an A-line dress, but tried on ballgowns, fit and flares and one mermaid. You won’t really know what will look best until you try the dress on. Judging by your photos, I think you’ll do just fine! Hang in there!
Post # 4
Don’t freak out, just get out there and start trying on gowns girl, you know your style. Have fun with it, like you said your fiance loves you!
Post # 5
- Wedding: July 2013 - Antigua, Guatemala
Hey! I hear you!
I just went through the same thing! I would consider myself to be a very confident plus sized gal..that is until I went dress shopping. Everything I tried on and the stores I went to left me feeling defeated, sad and uncomfortable. I thought I would never find, look good or feel good in a dress…
After doing some research, I found two plus sized bridal shops in the Washington area. I had such an amazing experience at the first place. Not only did they have beautiful dresses I could try on…and zip up…it was such a positive experience.
I see that you are in the NYC area…you may want to make a road trip!!
CurvyGirls Bridal (this is where I found my gown!)
Post # 6
@Ms_Pinoy: I know how you’re feeling. Believe it or not a lot of corset dresses are very flattering and you would be surprised what looks good. My dress is a maggie sottero and her dresses are awesome for plus size girls, They really suck you in.
Post # 7
I was a little worried, but I got over it quick when I realized the dress was just part of the overall best day of my life. In the end, I didn’t have my dream dress, but I looked great and felt AWESOME on my wedding day! I’m a street size 22.
Post # 8
As I’ve said in previous posts, be open-minded about the dress and try on all different styles, fabrics – you’ll be pleasantly surprised about what looks good on you. Don’t bring an entourage – you’ll get confused and start listening to everyone else instead of trusting your gut. And you may not cry, but you’ll feel great in “the dress” you choose for your wedding. Good luck!
Post # 9
Another alternative- I think I’m a bit smaller than you, but I feel like I have a similar body type from your pics. I hate hate hate clothes shopping, especially for formal dresses, because even though I’m not THAT big, I’m too big for those dresses at most places. Anyway, what I ended up doing was ordering lots of dresses online from places with generous return policies until I found a dress I liked. This way I could try the dresses on at home, run around my apartnment a bit & decide if I liked them. I actually ended up going w/ a David’s Bridal dress (they have a decent selection of larger sizes). I ordered about 8 dresses when there was free shipping & a 20% off discount (just get on their mailing list, they do this very regularly) & then I just paid to ship the dresses back. Even with paying for the shipping my favorite dress ended up being less than $250 (& that was after I had tried on probably about 40 dresses from Nordstrom, Macy’s, Ann Taylor, JCREW (which also has some dresses in higher sizes) and other retailers). If you do this though, make sure you are vigilant about knowing the return policies of each place, and make sure you have enough in your bank account to cover any payments that do not get returned until the next month.
For type, I ended up going w/ an A-line, but I found v-necks & blousson type dresses to be very flattering.
Post # 10
Your in NYC? Save yourself any headaches and go to Alfred Angelo in CT. Trust me on this one. I’m your size and height….I felt happy and confident there! They have a fantastic selection in our size, and the prices are very fair, not to mention the dresses are beautiful.
Post # 11
- Wedding: July 2013 - Rock Hill Country Club, Manorville NY
I felt the same way. If you go to a bridal salon (I’m sorry but I wouldn’t recommend starting at DB), and have the attendent pick out some dresses for your, I think you will surprise yourself. These things cost thousands of dollars for a reason; They are well made, and designed to flatter and tuck you in. I did not have a frustrating time at all and ended up feeling beautiful and buying my dress after my very first (real) appointment. Just trust me on this one, you will surprise yourself!
Post # 12
I bought 5 dresses from China and did a trying on session at my parents house with my mum and FMIL. Best thing ever.
Post # 13
I am plus size as well US size 18 so I know how it is to not love everything about your body somedays. But most bridal salons are equipped with professional sales people who are trained to not only be sensitive to their customers but also know what looks good on a particular body type. Just go for it. try a few on and have fun with it!
Post # 14
I will say one word, three times, that says everything you need to know.
My lovely wife chose a corset dress, and it looked amazing.
Very definitely a positive choice for a curvier girl; it makes your curves go from “curvy” to “sha-pow!” which is a result eminently to be desired.
At least by your FI, anyway.
Post # 15
My hubbie has already commented on the amazing benefits of corset dresses. So, I will post the pictures.
for a before/after reference, here is me and my dad the day before the wedding:
And this is getting ready:
And this is a wedding portrait:
Post # 16
@OldMrsMcDonald: I want a cover up like the lacy one you have in this pic. It is the perfect length on the arms, my local DB kepts showing me full length sleeves that are itchy and annoying, or just plain ugly. But I would love to find one like yours!