Post # 1
hi all, my first post, but been a fan of this site since i got engaged!
Reading through all the positive posts on here, i knew this would be the place to ask!
I am a rather big girl and am really worried about looking gross on my wedding day. I’ve always to feel like a princess and all eyes on me for my big day. but i feel all eyes will be saying ‘ugh look at her’. My FI is the most supportive man and thinks I’ll look beautiful in anything. however my mum and dad are so unsupportive it makes me depressed. my wedding is months away and i havent stepped into a bridal store yet as i know there wont be a dress that fits and my mum will just say how i should have lost weight and that i look awful and will look gross on my wedding day. i’ve thought about postpoing the day until ive lost weight, but i thought why the hell should i? the day is not about what i look like, but us getting married!
anyway, ive been looking online for dresses. im us size 24. do you think these would suit a very curvy girl?
Post # 3
I love the second and third one. I think the first one would show to much of the girls lol. Don’t let anyone make you feel “gross”, embrace your curves. When you do you appear a confident and sexy. Nothing matters but the two of you getting married, have a spectacular day 🙂
Post # 4
Love the 2nd and 3rd one!
Keep an open mind when you go, you’d be surprised what can look awesome once on. My second suggestion(since your parents are unsupportive) go try by yourself to try on dresses or bring a close gf who will be helpful. Find styles you like on yourself and the if you want your mom involved bring her and show her your top 3. Also call around to the stores and see who has the biggest selection of dresses in your size range.
Good luck, you will look stunning on your big day!
ETA** Welcome to the bee!
Post # 5
@SupermansSweetheart: If your mom constantly criticizes your weight, you might want to bring someone more supportivie with you,
Post # 6
@SupermansSweetheart: + 1. You’d be surprised just how different some of the dresses look on. I always thought I’d choose an A line gown, I ended up wearing a form fitting mermaid style??? Keep an open mind when u go shopping. Try on everything in your size! You just never know 🙂
Post # 7
I agree with a lot of what PP have said. Just go in and try on a bunch of different styles, you’ll be surprised what makes you feel beautiful. And honestly, when I went to try on dresses, I didn’t feel gross in any (and I’m a large girl). It was the furthest thing from my mind. If your FH loves you for you, that’s all that matters. No one on your wedding day is going to be thinking any ill thoughts of you in your dress.
Post # 8
I love, love, love the 3rd one. Stunning!
I agree with the PP who said to bring someone else with you. My mom made a crack about my weight while trying on dresses and it ruined the whole day for me. I ended up finding my dress when I was alone.
Post # 9
I really love the second dress!!
Post # 10
i’m a street size 18 and i was so nervous about trying on dresses, but in the end it worked out just fine and i got the dress of my dreams.
i think you should definitely choose to only bring people to your dress appointments that you know will be unconditionally supportive of you. also, i think that as long as you feel comfortable and beautiful in your dress, you will look exactly that way on your day.
good luck! ps. i love #1.
Post # 11
Thanks for all the advice. Still dreading going, but as you say, worth tryng on everything in my size.
However if I go with anyone other then my mum she will disown me which will ruin my day. Any ideas on how to survive the dress fitting with her?
Post # 12
I am a street size 18 and I LOVED a dress just like the third one but went in a different direction. They are all gorgeous.
I think the secret is to bring someone else with you also who is a huge cheerleader. I went dress shopping with a friend of mine whose mother is so mean, and was just like oh I guess you look fine (my friend is a size 8 and totally gorgeous) but she had enough other people with her that her stupid mother was drowned out. Just bring others who are supportive of you at any size and you will be fine.
Post # 13
I have the best fiance ever! He has organised a trip where two of our friends (not bridemaids!) drive me 2 hours to a wedding shop and try on dresses. The shop will be just open to us when we’re there. I get treated to champagne and wedding cake. And the shop are catered purely for plus size brides. How sweet!
It was meant to be a surprise where they just bundled me into a car without telling me where we were going, but they were worried that I would be stressed out about what my mum thinks. And I am. I just now need to tell her, when her quote was ‘dress shopping is for mother and bride only’. Ugh, way to ruin what coud have been a lovely surprise! On the plus size (lol) everything is booked and organised so stuff it!! Hehe.
Will post pictures up of dresses after (if there are any nice ones!).
Post # 14
Awwww! That is the sweetest thing!!! I’m looking forward to the details of the trip and of course the pics! 🙂
Post # 15
I love that first one! It’s gorgeous!
Post # 16
I LOVE the first one, but i guess it really depends on what your comfort level is and how your body is built! I am a big girl as well, but i am Pear shaped and tall so it all kind of depends. My biggest advice is to bring those who will be honest and lift you up, and not make you feel misreable. I have went out dress shopping a couple of times and havent found anything that i was comfortable in, but i have brought both types of people with me and the experience is always better when you have a good support system.
GOOD LUCK 🙂