Post # 1
So I knew my size was going to be an issue when it came to trying on the sample dresses that most bridal boutiques carry. But WOW, I didn’t know the nightmare it would be!
I’m a bigger girl, yes, but do I have to be subjected to trying on the size 8 sample dress when I, and everyone else in the room, knows it’s NOT going to fit?
I haven’t gone to the nation wide retailers yet because… well, I guess I am still holding on to the ideal dress vision I have and I know they won’t have it. And I like the boutiques, right up to the fitting time.
Any tips on how to manage the dress shopping process better would be TOTALLY appreciated!
Post # 3
I totally understand the feeling! I first went to davids bridal, and ironically they were giving me dresses that were somehow too big, which I find odd. I wear a sz 16 dress, which is a pain in the rear to find at most places. So somehow, i found my dress, even though the sample was a sz 10! Ok, it sure as hell didn’t fit, but I got the general idea. It helped that it was a lace up back, which is the only kind of back i would have on a dress. That definitely helped the process. But it was hard to get off, lol.
Post # 4
corset back! Call around and see which stores carry some larger sizes in stock. I know that when i went to one particular location, they carried a lot of larger dresses to try on and I thought it was really refreshing to see such a range represented. At least you can narrow down a particular style.
Post # 5
I was pleasantly surprised that most of the stores I went to had a decent selection of plus sized dresses for me to try on. David’s was my first stop just because they have a large selection of different styles in most sizes. I tried on pretty much everything to get a sense for what style looked good on me.
I would search the websites of local websites to see if they mention the sizes they carry or ask your local knot board for suggestions. Good luck and have fun!
Post # 6
Yay another upstate bride!
Honestly I ended up going to Davids Bridal because I knew they’d have my size and I wouldnt have to try and imagine what the dress MIGHT look like, other than making me a stuffed sausage. The one thing Davids Bridal is good about is that they have a plethora of dresses! I must have tried on about 20 dresses in a range of styles and sizes THAT FIT, and I ended up loving a dress I never thought I’d like.
Post # 7
All the bridal salons I went to clipped the dresses up so that they looked approximately like they would when they were sized properly. I didn’t want to be limited to dresses that they carried in plus sized samples, because I wasn’t attracted to most of those styles. I honestly wasn’t all that bothered by it.
Post # 8
I don’t know what your budget is… I went to Pronovias in NYC, the flagship store. They were great. They had two dresses for each style, one in a smaller size and one in a larger size. You get a much better idea of how a dress will look, plus their dresses are amazing. I’m a size 14W or 16 in street clothes, a size 20 in wedding dresses. Here are some images of my dress:
If not David’s Bridal is a good choice since you can try on the dresses in your size.
Post # 9
I didn’t even want to wear a wedding dress because I felt that I would NEVER find one that was both beautiful and looked beautiful ON ME because of my size.
I tried some on at David’s Bridal just to see how ridiculous I would look. Well, the FIRST one I tried on was THE ONE. I was so surprised, astonished, amazed, whatever you want to call it, because I looked in the mirror and it was GORGEOUS. I fell in love with it right then and there.
So, I guess all I can say is keep an open mind. You WILL find a dress that you love and it will be great. =)
Post # 10
I’m a street size 20/22 and I was able to try on dresses that were around a size 12. There was only one that we could not button up but it was a size 8/10 and my shoulders are ‘broad’ I guess. I thought I would absolutely dread dress shopping but I really didn’t- I was surprised!
I ended up with an Anjolique in a size 18 (again the shoulder thing I guess?)- I don’t know the style number. I tried a 16 on in the store. I say check in with your local board and see if the girls can tell you some plus size friendly stores because I don’t think you want to come to Dallas and go to the one I went to 🙂
I would wear spanx so that you will be more comfortable in front of everyone since you will be nekked with the sales associate.
Post # 11
You all are giving me hope! Maybe it was the store that was the issue?
The one dress I did try on was a corsette back and it did fit but I looked like a snow beast (to coin a phrase from Greek Wedding!). Then the sales lady tried to push me into buying it! Yea… must be the store.
I will go to David’s next since I don’t know if I could handle another shock of sizing!
(Yay for Upstate! Cause we are 6 hours from NYC yet it’s always forgotten )
Post # 12
Hello there. 🙂
I wear a size 14 now, and I found trying on dresses to also be a nightmare. I could normally get them on’ish’, but it was almost embarrassing because I was trying to fit in something that was obviously too small for me.
One thing I did notice is that 1) corsets helped get a better illusion if something was going to work or not, even if it just covered your front and 2) the boutiques and David’s Bridal and all of those places differed in size, even if they were the same designer making the dress.
It seems some boutiques have a vanity size… they have it say a lesser size than what it really is. Unfortunately, the only way I found around this was just to go to a handful of different shops and try things on. Also, trust your lady/guy helping you in the shops… a lot of times, they have a good idea of what might be more flattering on your figure.
For instance, after I decided the DB dress I had originally picked wasn’t quite what I was after, I went from store to store. I tried on about 60+ dresses. But, in the end, the lady that was helping me at one store convinved me to try a dress I would have otherwise not been interested in. It was fabulous on.
My advise would be to go to several places and don’t get discouraged. You’ll know the dress when you find it. 🙂
Post # 13
i even wrote about this on my blog.. It is a terrible feeling to stand behind some size 4 and imagine how you would look in it ugh.
Post # 14
Let me tell you, dress shopping was a nightmare. Thank God I found the dress of my dreams, but I had quite a time before I made my decision. There are some dresses which look like A-lines from all appearances, but are very form fitting through the hip, which is not good if you are a more voluptuous bride like myself. It was so disappointing to learn that all these A-line imposter dresses were not an option. And sadly, every dress I saw that I LOVED was in a size 8, which would be a leg warmer, because that’s as far up as the dress was going on me. Keep the faith. You will definitely find something. I did try David’s Bridal first, and I found two gowns that I really liked. They will have the biggest selection as far as plus sizes go, in my experience, anyway. I had a harder time with my voluptuous bridesmaids. One wears a 28/30 in street clothes, and when I asked the shop owner if she had bigger size samples for bridesmaid’s dresses, she said (rather snottily), "WELL…I would never carry any dress bigger than a 16. We don’t have the clientele for that, and when I sell the samples, NO ONE will buy them." It was terrible. I wanted to choke that woman. Honestly. Otherwise, try eBay. I’ve seen gorgeous gowns there, but of course, you can’t try those on first.