(Closed) Full head table vs. Sweetheart table… HELP!

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Save yourself some trouble, go with just the sweetheart table.  You won’t hurt anyone’s feelings and everyone gets up from that table to go hang with their SO/wives/husbands.  You aren’t even going to talk to them if you’re up at that table. DH and I did the sweetheart table and the FG’s wound up pulling their chairs up to our table, but everyone else got to have a nice night with their SO.

Post # 4
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6018 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

The big prob you have is who’s walking up the aisle just before you .. .cause you hand your flower off to them when you do the ring exchange…. i know this was a major deal in a few weddings I’ve been in.

Post # 5
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529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

First, I don’t see why they would care you sat next to you. I for one wouldn’t care…..but I’m going with the sweetheart table becaue my BM’s are bringing dates and I want them to sit next to each other.

Post # 6
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1400 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’d go with a sweetheart table.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I vote sweetheart table, but thats what I did and I liked it a lot.   However if you have your heart set on the full head table, maybe don’t specify who should sit next to you, and have them figure it out themselves?  like label two spots “maid of honor” and one of them will just sit down in one of the spots, and the other will follow.

Post # 8
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853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@HappyBee33:  Would one option be to have one stand next to you during the ceremony and during the dinner have the other sit beside you at the head table?  That way you are making an effort to recognize each of them?

Post # 10
Hostess
7568 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

You could always do a regular round table in the middle of the reception. That way you could talk to everyone. 

Post # 13
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Sweetheart table all the way. It keeps people from getting their feathers ruffled in the party and it creates less of an isolation from your other guests. Plus you and honey can actually get a bite and there is a central place for people to come speak to you without feeling like they are intruding on the special party members at a head table.

Post # 14
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882 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I guess I’m in the minority, I don’t like sweetheart tables. I find them a little…weird (for lack of a better word). I never understand why a bride and groom wouldn’t want to be surrounded by family and friends at their reception. Plus everybody staring at me and my husband eating freaks me out. We did a very long rectangle head table with the us, the bridal party, and their dates. The only actual places that were specified were for the bride and groom. Everyone else sat where they liked. I actually had to think for a minute who even sat next to me! (it was my brother, btw). Let me know if you wnat to see pictures. I think it turned out great. 

@piacavoleKT why would a head table ruffle people’s feathers? And to me a sweetheart table is more isolated…hence the weirdness. 

@Happybee33 can you get a different shape/bigger table for your bridal party? If you did a rectangle—you could have one MOH next to you and the other one directly across from you. 

Post # 15
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BrooklynWife:  When I’ve attended weddings with head tables many other guests felt that they were on a different tier of importance and thus unable to freely approach the table where the bride and groom were. They felt that the family/friends the couple wanted to be surronded by were the ones at said table. The sweetheart table at two weddings with some overlapping guests made the bride and groom seem more open/available to every single guest no matter the size of the wedding. Just from my experience not a rule of thumb.

I’m glad it worked out for you. I’m sure it’s different for every wedding. I just have been to several where it was uncomfortable for the guests. Doesn’t mean it always is Just depends on your crowd and how able to bride and groom are able to get around to everyone through the night. 

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