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What is your concept of soulmates, lives, etc?
Note: None of this is meant to be anti-Christian (or other religion) etc. For some, both are compatible...the same way people can believe in both the bible and science....different facets of truth.
I believe in one life but I do think we have a few soulmates to choose from.
i like to think there are several potential life partners. although i do think the idea of one soulmate, whether it be in one life or several, is very romantic. great poll!
I don't believe in soulmates, although I like to use the word for the person I've chosen. :) I can't say I believe there are several to choose from, either, because I think it's really a matter of meeting a potentially good match at the right time in your life, and then making it work. So I guess striving to find your "good earth partner" is what I believe in!
I'm not religious or spiritual beyond the "Golden Rule," so I don't have any belief in souls.
From a logistical standpoint as well, I can't buy the idea of one soulmate. Out of the billions of people on earth, we only have one shot at true love and happiness? Then either the vast majority of people never find true love, or there has to be some other force at work that destines us to meet our soulmates. But if our soulmates are predetermined, what else in our lives are already destined to happen? Where does it stop? Just doesn't make sense to me.
Don't get me started. I saw a segment on "The Universe" where they were trying to explain how it is theoretically possible that we are simultaneously living multiple lives, in parallel universes. It gave me a headache just trying to follow what they were saying, lol. Interesting poll though!
This might be my favorite poll yet...lol
I'm undecided between one and multiple. I try most to focus on my one life.
Even if there were multiple, I wouldn't want to know about others unless I did something really amazing or was someone really important in another. lol
There was this psychic back several years ago who seemed to know what she was talking about. She was reading my thoughts and answering questions in my mind that I was avoiding asking her. I sort of believe her. I think with her concept we have soul friends that are separate from soul mates. I got the impression that there was one soulmate that is designated but it could be changed...but then the whole story of your life changes. It was really interesting.
@EleanorRigby: Oh my god, I love that theory! I've been having parallel universe daydreams since I first read about it in a Michio Kaku book.
When I'm pissed off at my hubby, I like to think that somewhere out there in the vast universe, I am currently smacking him over the head with a chair. It's very satisfying. Also, maybe somewhere out there, I am married to Alexander Skarsgard. Ohhhh yeah.
That's interesting. Some believe WE chooose the paths of our lives in order to grow, learn, etc.
It could be both. One psychic a while back gave mw the impression that you have chosen one but you can chage from your designated soulmate to one of your soul friends but that there would be other changes that would occur if that happened. lol
I don't believe in souls. I think we should strive to have the best/most positive life possible, and that there are multiple people on this earth that we can do that with. I also believe that once we die, that's it - except that our matter then gets passed back into the circle of life.
You know the other thing that kept happening to me is I kept catching irony and forshadowing etc. and then thought it was like a story. There were things happening beyond coincidence. I thought maybe we are entertainment for the other souls who are not on earth and they are getting a kick out of our stories.
I hope they are enjoying my life and are rooting for me...lol I'm sure they are fastforwarding through the boring parts...lol
No need for TV when you can watch interesting earthlings and all of our drama. lol
I don't believe in "soulmates". I think that there are types of people that are more compatible and that would make good partners, but there isn't just one person for me.
I'm unsure about what I feel about multiple lives. I really like the idea of reincarnation/multiple lives, but at the very least I believe that my soul will live on in some capacity after I die.
@jayce: When I'm pissed off at my hubby, I like to think that somewhere out there in the vast universe, I am currently smacking him over the head with a chair. I laughed so hard at this!! :-)
This is interesting. Almost half do not believe in soulmates.
Yeah. I'm not sure about the number of lives either. If we don't get to come back, being a guardian angel for someone appreciative would be cool. lol There is also that concept that I thought of that maybe they are watching us like reality TV...lol I guess the main thing is to not be bored if we don't get to comeback.
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I went through about 3 years where I didn't believe in soulmates and for me, I was like dead inside. I think the concept is fun so if it doesn't exist, I'd rather not know until after death. By the way, I'm not judging anyone. I am just saying for me, it gives me that extra mojo/spark/excitement.
I'm in the one-life camp. And I don't think I ended up with my guy by chance (or luck!) alone, though I'm not sure how I actually feel about the term "soulmates."
Now that I see that almost half don't believe in soulmates, I should watch what I say...lol
There have been a few times where somebody is getting married and I've said "I'm glad you found your soulmate." and I get this awkward pause and I'm wondering whether maybe the person doesn't feel like it is his/her soulmate but as just decided to stop believing and settle for a good earthmate or maybe he/she felt that he/she couldn't marry the one he/she really feels is his/her soulmate.
Then after the awkward pause there is a "Yeah..." that doesn't sound convincing...lol
From a science standpoint I know that humans are actually NOT one of the animals on this earth that mate for life. There are some that do, but we aren't one of them....so no, I don't believe in soulmates. Even if I did, who cares? I think that many people come into your life and when they exit it, regardless of how, it was because your chapter together is over and another chapter begins. It's a progression that meanders, not one that marches straight through to a destination. IMO.
Since I'm undecided on how many lives, I'm wondering what your view is on the afterlife.
-Do we get to do other jobs like guardian angle etc?
-Do we just exist in a state of blisfulness for eternity (if we've been good)?
-Are New Yorkers graded on a curve? (just teasing... Red Sox fan)...but you get the point...is life's judgement affected by mitigating circumstances?
-Do we watch the lives of earthlings for entertainment?
-Do most people make it to heaven or is it about 50/50 or is it a rare few that make it?
@Socrates: I didn't want this to become too faith-based because I know the members of the WB community are of many different faiths, but I'll extrapolate a little.
I believe that I was created with intention and discretion by the Lord. I believe that my fiance was, too. I also believe that there are certain things in life that some see as coincidences—I see them as God moving in my life.
My fiance and I can identify certain parts of our lives that suggest we're "meant for" each other. I don't really think that it was him or nothing from the beginning, but that God had a plan in place. So I'm not uncomfortable necessarily with the word "soulmate"—I just think there are some connotations that don't necessarily resonate with my faith-based beliefs.
Disclaimer: These are my views alone, and I certainly am not imposing them on anyone else. I respect your differing beliefs!
Yeah cool. As far as religion goes, the bible doesn't mention soulmates (as far as I know).
So what about the afterlife? Even among Christians, it is not clear what exactly people imagine goes on afterwards. What's your impression of the afterlife? I doubt you'd be attacked. lol
@Socrates: Re: the afterlife. Again, this is my belief. Not what I'm claiming as absolute fact.
I do believe in Heaven, but to be honest, I'm not positive what awaits me there. According to my faith, God has promised eternal life through salvation, and I believe that my life on Earth is much shorter than the time that awaits me in Heaven.
I could tell you what I hope Heaven is like, but it's all wishful thinking. :)
As for who gets there? I don't think Heaven is an exclusive club. I think the doors of Heaven are open to all who ask for salvation.
But I think it's important to note that the Heaven I'm speaking of isn't necessarily the same Heaven a non-Christian would speak of. So I'm just talking about how I understand it. :)
I don't necessarily believe in soul mates. I believe there are people who are our perfect match and much of what we are looking for in a person. I believe that when we meet the right person at the right time with the right personality, that that becomes the person we are meant to be with. But the idea that our soulmate is only one specific person and that somehow we are supposed to find that one person out of the billions out there... sorry. Don't buy it. But, I believe that once you find your true love, nothing can match that. I love my fiance. He isn't my "soulmate" but the mate for my soul.
@Gemstone
Thanks for being open and sharing.
Still as far as who gets there, I find it interesting to see that different people have different ideas on how strict it is to get in so I'm just trying to get an idea whether in your view it is "almost all" "most", "half", "few"...How's that...I made it 4 choices to make it easier. lol
I think one of the reasons why I am not sure how many lives there are is because in my opinion there are too many middles...lol...people not bad enough to not get in (I hope) but also people who PERHAPS didn't arrive at the same level of moral fortitude that others did. So then it becomes a balance of compassion and fairness. Of course WE are not to judge (yada yada) but this influences my thought somewhat.
I believe this -
@PitBulLover
I chose that one too.
You guys and your parallel universes...talk about multitasking...lol. I suppose it is possible because I actually think our perception of time is only due to our experiences. I started to think a couple of years ago that there is nothing that says justice has to be sequential. For example, suppose we do something in the future and because of that, something good or bad is added to the present (which is really the past of the future). So it could have all played out and then we are now experiencing everything in a given order...sort of like writing a book. I can write chapter 19 before chapter 3 but then you can experience it in order by reading it in order.
I'm too busy with this life, if I am living elsewhere, I am sure my soul is slacking over there. lol
I'm Catholic and don't believe in soulmates. If two people are willing to be committed, then they can remain married and hopefully live happily on Earth. After we die, we aren't married.
Socrates, what you just described is usually called Karma in Buddhism. You should check out that belief system because it sounds like it would interest you. :)
If by soul mate, we mean that person with whom we feel instant attraction, count me out. If it's those relationships that everyone describes (especially those who have to stand around & watch the train wreck) as "intense", "passionate" or "stormy'--no thanks!
Those people are actually tapping unresolved issues within ourselves, that's why we feel we've known them forever immediately. The relationship tends to be based on a lot of projection & the unhealthier parts of ourselves.
If we mean a best friend, then I'm on board. My DH is absolutely my best friend in the whole wide world.
I believe in one life, and I used to think there were many possible "soul mates" - really just someone you could be very compatible with for the rest of your life.
Now that I'm with my BF, though, I can't imagine there being more than one out there. He's just too incredibly perfect for me.
I didn't vote, because no option really quite fit my view.
I think through the decisions we make & the life path we have, just as we "create" who we are we "create" (or change) who our "soul mate(s)" (or soul friend-s) is/will be.
I personally don't believe in "the one" (that there is only one life partner out there for each of us) and in the same line of thinking, I do not believe that there is only one specific soul mate, or set number of specific individuals for each person.
Yes, I do believe in soul mates, but I think that who those individuals will be is constantly changing (as we are all constantly changing) which leaves an infinite possibility for who & when your soul mate/friend will be.
I know the (general) idea is that a soul mate is someone who will be eternally intuited to yourself, or that you will always feel a certain affinity for, but I believe that you can have this as well as the constant flux I described.
I'm familiar with Buddism and the concept of karma in and out of Buddism. I avoided using the word karma because I didn't want people to assume I was refering to Buddism. The term has become quite popularized now to just mean reaping what you sew/lessons etc. and many people believe there is a portion of this even outside Buddism.
When you say "what I just described" I'm not sure which part. I do think the concept of what I call non-linear justice is interesting. I remember the concept of things that you will do affecting what happens to you now but I have never heard anyone phrase it as things that you have done (in the future) affecting the past/present. It is interesting because if someone is vengeful he/she can trap him/herself in a cycle of destruction.
Who says attraction to soulmates must be instant? It could be set up that eventually one realizes it. I guess it could be different for each person. This poll would be interesting for a group of 80 and 90 year olds. lol
Interesting. That would be similar to no soulmates since the possibilities are infinite. I guess you would go with what one of the other posters said as "no soulmates but a mate for your soul". I guess the issue is that if it can be anyone, then there is nobody "special". If the concept is you make the special simply by choosing and you are saying anyone you choose is your soulmate, that makes it interesting because we make interesting choices all the time. I'd like to hear more of this flux theory of soulmates. Perhaps your theory is that anybody that you choose is your soulmate and it may either be happy or not...irrelevent to to designation? I'm not sure. Let's hear more.
I voted one life but you have several "soulmates"
I believe people (not just your significant other) are put in your life at a certain time to learn something from. --They enhance your soul.
My FI and I call each other soulmates all the time. It may be a term of endearment on the surface level but we both truly also believe we enhance the others soul.
We make each other want to be better people. Our souls (the essence of who we are) complement each other. I see through to him in a way no one has seen him and the same could be said about him. He sees through me in a way no one has seen me.
I voted one life but a few soulmates to choose from. I think it all depends on who and where you are at life, and your maturity level. i think many relationships that could work out don't work out b/c people aren't willing to communicate, work things out, and put the other person before themselves, and when you're finally ready to do that, you find that "soulmate" too bad many people never get to this point.
"I guess the issue is that if it can be anyone, then there is nobody "special". "
On a contrary, I think simply through the act of finding an individual with which you share a certain, marked affinity, that in and of itself makes the connection special. Yes, there is the possibility that it could be "anyone", but is that not how soul mates work? You never know who it is/could be, and thusly, your soul mate could be anyone --it comes down to finding them/recognizing the connection to form the bond -- and I suppose I should clarify, you choose yourself, you don't choose your soul mate, you find them.
The flux of who/when/where comes from making choices in your life. Hypothetically speaking, if there are only pre-designated soul mates, and only one for each person in the world and my hypothetical Soul mate is in Siberia, I highly doubt any of my life choices would lead me to them, and thusly I would miss out on my one, pre-designated soul mate.
However, if (like me), you don't believe in pre-designation, your soul mate could be anyone, anywhere, at any time -- yes my hypothetical soul mate might still be in Siberia, but I also have the opportunity to meet other soul mates in other avenues of my life.
Point of curiosity-- how would you define the difference between a soul mate and a soul friend? Is a soul mate someone you would "love" (eros - erotic love) or someone you would love (agape - brotherly love)-- is a soul mate to be taken literally - your (physical)mate?
I always interpreted the term "soul mate" as a spiritual connection, not a physical one, so the division of terms "soul mate" and "soul friend" seem a tad ambiguous to my interpretation unless referring to "levels" of connection (friend obviously being less connected than a mate).
I migt use separate posts because we are talking about different issues.
"I think simply through the act of finding an individual with which you share a certain, marked affinity, that in and of itself makes the connection special."
I tried to cover this possiblility with the sentense after the one you quoted. OK...so there are tons of special connections or at least thoughts of special connections. Are they all soulmates? If not, how would we know which ones are?
"my hypothetical Soul mate is in Siberia"
I think most who believe in soulmates believe that at least an opportunity would be present...not necessarily a guarantee but at least an opportunity. Therefore if your soulmate truly was in Siberia, at some point there would be an opportunity for you to meet. And yes...your actions could make a difference...preparation etc. If in fact none of your life choices led you to that person, he/she would not be your soulmate.
your soul mate could be anyone, anywhere, at any time
There are two levels to this "anyone"...if you will. One is suggesting that anyone could be because we don't know yet who it is. I think that is common among both theories. The other is suggesting that everyone has potential (not just to be) to become...now that is different. That is the no soulmates theory.
I'm confused which you believe because at one point you talk about "find"...if there is no designated soul to look for, what are you finding? If you are just finding some earthly chemistry, that is something different isn't it? Since anybody is eligible, why bother to look? Why not just turn to your left and find the first guy and make him your soulmate. If not everyone can work then you are saying only some can work...now we are working towards the "some to choose from" theory.
As a young thinker (back in the day), I was to arrogant to subscribe to the psychologists/sociologists termonologies of love. I was busy coming up with my own. Maybe if it had come from the philosophers I would have jumped abord. lol
Now...as far as soul friends and soul mates, I am certainly no expert but if you want me to define how I personally see them, I will. Soul friends are souls you have connections with on a soul level. For this life, they may appear to be your friend (e.g family member, friend) or even your enemy. They are characters in the story of your life just like actors in a movie. After they finish shooting, they go off for lunch. On a soul level, there is a connection.
Soulmates, to my understanding are those with whom there is intended to be an even deeper connection during your life (like the lead actor and lead actress of the story). Yes...there is a romantic element. There is also a "become one with" element that may not be present among "soul friends".
Friends= interact with
Mate= intertwine
This is just MY interpretation.
One time I was talking to this psychic who was dead on about so much and she had mentioned that one person was a good soulfriend and not my soulmate but that we could be soulmates if we wanted but that XXXX would have to occur. I found that interesting...like there was a written story but that the story could be changed but there would be consequences for changing the story.
So I guess I sort of believe that for the story of your life, you have one designated (provided you deserve one...lol). I think though that you can change the story and make one of your soul friends your soulmate and intertwine with that soul and change the story of your life (if you insist) with some consequenses...or you can miss your soulmate (pride, refusal to communicate, refusal to correct a character/ interaction flaw) and end up with no ultimate soulmate.
I think my life is a mixture of pre-destination and choice. I think that God has a plan and purpose for my life( which includes a partner) and its up to me to then make the choice of choosing this for myself.
The word soulmate is sort of hard to accept but for lack of a better work, yeah I believe, esp after meeting SO.
With Nearly 100 votes, there is no clear pattern.
About 44% don't believe in soulmates...a little higher than I expected. I guess all the rises and falls influence interpretation.
The only surprising thing (to me) is that nearly 20% don't believe in souls at all and feel once we are dead, there is no more life.
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