Post # 1
Ok hive, so I am essentially still a child, and I love all things PLAY, but I know I can be a bit rediculous and cheesy. So I need your opinions, I refuse to have a sit down dinner at some restaurant for the rehearsal dinner. There will be between 20-30 people and we have a budget of around $600. So I have come up with a couple of ideas.
My first idea which I have found many others have done, is bowling. For 2 hours of bowling, pizza,salad, and soft drinks the price comes to about $25 per person give or take a couple.
My second idea which is my favorite, but not sure if its cheesy, is hosting a murder mystery dinner. I would hire 2 actors which is $500 and they would execute the script, assigning several guests roles as a suspect, and give them a costume. One of the actors will die and come back as a detective and the other actor is also a suspect. No one including the murderer knows who the murderer is. Throughout the dinner clues are given through the scripts, and groups work together to figure out who’s the killer. At the end of the night awards are given to best actor/actress, most far fetched idea, and the winner. I would make salads, lasagna, garlic bread, and have some ice cream and brownies for desert. Best part is this can all take place right at the church after rehearsal, so the lasagnas can be warming while we rehearse.
So if I am just being very childish and a murder mystery dinner is a rediculous idea, please dont let me embarass myself. If bowling is also lame, please give me a fun alternative idea to sitting and eating, that encourages people to have fun and mingle. Thank you so much bees!
Post # 3
I think in the right context and the right group of people the murder mystery dinner could be really fun! If you go that route hopefully people will participate.
Post # 4
@smetivier26: I love both ideas!!!! I think the bowling is more practical as the wedding is the next day and there is lots of stuff to do before the date and you’ll need rest. Plus I know myself, Id be too distracted to really enjoy something like that. I would suggest it for a later date and have a blast with your friends and family.
BTW i think i may steal the bowling idea for our rehersal dinner
Post # 5
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
I like the murder mystery idea, but don’t waste $500 on actors! I think that defeats the point. Just have everyone participate instead.
Post # 6
I think I murder mystery would be fun! When else would I get to do that? I think a bowling party would be fun too. Our wedding is the day after 4th of July, so our rehearsal is on the 4th (which is a friday luckily) so we are going to be having it out at the lake, and basically have a BBQ and fireworks and just a grand old time! I also hate the idea of a formal sit down dinner 😛
Post # 7
I like the murder mystery dinner idea. That sounds like a lot of fun!
Post # 8
we plan to have a BBQ I DO rehearsal dinner in my backyard. something casual and laid paid w/ a few games in mind.
Post # 10
Oh fun! If your guests are into that sort of thing, the murder mystery night could be a blast 😀 Bowling sounds like a great idea too! I also wasn’t too keen on a regular sit-down event for the rehearsal dinner. I figured we’re already doing that the next day. Our venue has a small stable and we’re riding out on horseback to a BBQ cookout in the hills surrounding the lodge 🙂
Post # 11
My friend writes his own murder mysteries. Once a year around Christmas he throws a party and we all get roles ahead of time, but those roles are often not what they seem.
Everyone gets really into it, it’s relatively cheap, and it’s always so much fun!
It’s also great for getting people that may not know each other wel to interact and participate. Seriously, I love them! Don’t hire actors, just buy a kit and do it yourself. And have fun!
Post # 12
I think for most people – bowling would be best. However, I personally have been dying to do a murder mystery night. FI, not so much. It would depend on how much you think your guests would get into the murder mystery. It could be a great way to make people intereact.
Post # 13
So from the results, I have decided to go with the murder mystery dinner! Thank you guys!
Post # 14
@BubblingBride2012: I love that your “stealing” my idea! As far as being to distracted to enjoy it, I am way to competitive to think about anything else. lol And preparing a few lasagnas the day before to be heated during the rehearsal is no biggie for me. I’m used to cooking for lots of people. Also it is supposed to last only around 2 hrs, give or take depending on the group, so considering there will be no extra travel time, it will probably be the same as bowling.
@Christy42213: Hey I live in maryland (getting married here too) but all of my side of the family is in RI! Thought that was a cool cowinkadink. Anyways I am going to get actors, its only 2 and they assign guests a bunch of roles so they will be participating. I want to because I dont think I would know how to execute the game without them since I’ve never been to one before. I think they will take alot of stress off of me and be funnier. Wish I had more confidence in myself so I could save that $500 though!
@shrubfish09: ugh so jealous you get to have yours on the 4th! Of course your going to do a cookout and see fireworks! That sounds perfect!
@Summer_Rose: Horseback? OMG yours will be fairytail! Would love to know more details about the wedding! Were having our reception in a barn (cool but all DIY) I looked into lodges because I LOVE them but they were all waaaay out of price range or you had to be a member 🙁
@BeachBride2014: So glad you have experience with them and you love them! I’m going to hire actors though only to take stress off of me to have to keep the night going. I’m considered the host but they will be doing all the “work”.
@msbeautygeek: Thats a great idea, I would have done a bbq but the reception food is also bbq, better than backyard bbq but still. Otherwise we would have just done the same thing at the park across from the church.
@orangeroses29: took your advise and so far 4 people have responded and said both sound fun but are leaning more toward murder mystery! I was only able to ask 10 of them and considering there will be 20-30 that doesnt tell me everyone, but no matter what I know I cant make everyone happy. The odds are looking good so far though. My friends and family are all goofballs like me, its the grooms side I’m mostly unsure about.
Post # 15
OMG I would LOVE a murder mystery! But I also think you have to consider your audience… would they go for this non-traditional wedding activity?
Post # 16
I love murder mystery parties, but PP is right, you don’t need to hire actors, you can buy a party game for so much less and just use yourselves as actors!