Post # 1
Hi all! Please add your tips, tricks, ideas, and methods for keeping your relationship or marriage happy, healthy, affectionate, and fulfilling.
My odd-ball favorite is giving my husband facials (actual skin care…) once in a while with a glass of Champagne. It always relaxes us both, gives us time to bond, and sends intimacy and affection through the roof.
What are your favorite “acts of kindness” or “tricks of the trade” to keeping your relationship fun and healthy? I think it’s a great way to get fun and new ideas from others :-)!
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Taking baths together, recording their favourite show or downloading an app they might like. My favourite from my fiance is getting face massages. They are amazing!
Post # 4
I like to give him a nice massage every once in a while. He enjoys it even if he pretends that he doesn’t.
I dunno… we just go out of our way to make sure the direction we’re headed, the things we do, the places we go are fun and compatible for both of us. We share a lot of hobbies so we enjoy doing things like hiking, sports, shooting, camping, etc. together. I think it helps us bond and stay really close and connected to be able to share so many things together.
Post # 5
@Mumbles88: Never take yourselves too seriously, be transparent and honest at all costs, be generous with each other and when all else fails, get back to basics….Love & Sandwiches!
Post # 6
Just complimenting each other a lot and being appreciative when they do something for you. Whenever my BF does something for me, I always say “Thank you for doing this” and I always smile or kiss him when I thank him.
We also do things to make each other’s life easier. Like when he spends the night at my place, I’ll do his laundry for him. And even if I’m doing dishes in my kitchen, he always offers to help me. Even though he doesn’t live there lol.
We’ll also pretend to bite each other. Like I’ll gently bite his arm and go “Nom nom nom”. And he’ll do the same to me lol. Just little, silly things like that makes us feel even closer 🙂
Post # 7
@Mumbles88: We’ve been together six years and I think what makes our relationship strong is having a good sense of humor. We laugh about EVERYTHING together. My advice would be to laugh together everyday (laughter is the “best medicine”, right?) and to be forgiving for the little things. I like to think to myself, “would I regret feeling angry over this if something bad were to happen?” Works for us and keeps our relationship happy and exciting!
Post # 8
Laugh together. Be respectful of each other. Try to always see things from the other’s point of view as well as your own. Have special, intimate things between the two of you that no one else shares. Be affectionate and kind. Be aware of what’s important to the other person and honor that.
Post # 9
Remember that just because you’re married, you’re still your own person, as is he. I love my husband, but sometimes I just want a night to myself to watch cheesy love movies while he’s out with his friends, and vice versa (minus the cheesy love movies on his part).
We also try to go on a date at least once a month, to get out of the house and do something fun together.
Post # 10
We play fight/wrestle a lot. Of course he always wins, but it’s still fun.
Post # 11
Thanking/appreciating each other is huge – we always thank the other for stuff like chores, grabbing something from the kitchen, etc.
Massages – we used to do this more, but it is still very much a part of keeping us close and happy. 🙂
Post # 12
Have fun, and communicate; not just in a telling-each-other-when-something’s-bothering-you way, but also in terms of just connecting and talking to each other. I think too many couples just sit in front of the TV in silence, not talking; talking is really important to us, we love a good gossip. Fun is also important; we have a laugh when we’re together.
Also, I swear by date nights; we go out as a couple at least once a week for dinner and drinks. It’s a time for us, as a couple, with no distractions, where we can talk properly and just enjoy each other’s company.
I also think that making an effort sometimes is nice. Sometimes I’ll wear lingerie I know he likes, or have my hair how he likes it, or wear a dress and heels which he loves; and he does the same for me. We don’t do it all the time, but in some ways, that makes it more special when we do. We also compliment each other a lot; I think that’s very important for keeping that spark there.
Post # 13
Never stop playing around having fun with each other. Don’t let the excitement die.
Post # 14
Back and scalp scratches. Also, acting like kids (swinging on a playground, laughing at fart jokes, guiltily eating ice cream from the container, etc.) And, for us, cooking something elaborate together. We combine our skills to make a delicious treat to share.
Post # 15
One thing that FI always does that I would say is unique is he gives me my “trifecta” every night come bed time “good night baby” with a kiss, “I love you” with a kiss, and “sweet dreams” followed by a kiss and then 3 kisses.
When he doesn’t want me to sleep yet, he’ll try to use it as an excuse saying that I can’t sleep yet since he hasn’t given me my trifecta yet.
Post # 16
We are always laughing together. I support his goals and he supports mine, even if they aren’t the same- like he plays rugby and I like to run- we do our best to be present at each others’ events and encourage each other to play harder or run farther.
We try really hard to be appreciative. With a new baby, it is hard to get things done around the house. If he takes the time to vacuum or empty the dishwasher, I notice and thank him for it.
We leave sticky notes for each other- sometimes in obvious places, sometimes in random spots.
OP- thanks for this thread! It would be so easy to fall into a boring routine that revolves completely around the baby, but there are some really cute ideas in here about how to keep things light hearted and fun. Thanks again 🙂