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There are alot of other ways to raise funds that I think might be, umm, better. Try a second job, garage sale, selling unneeded items on CL, etc....
I wouldn't buy something like that, but I would rather solicite strangers than friends and family. Why not look around the boards for money saving tips?
nope, not for that shirt I wouldn't. I voted depends on the item. All the money I spend indirectly helps someone pay for something. If someone were to sell an item I actually wanted to pay for their wedding, sure. But I'm not buying junk for the sake of it to help pay for someone's wedding.
I wouldn't do it. Why would I want to wear a shirt about some stranger's wedding?
I don't like that idea at all to be honest. @tksjewelry is right, there are better ways to earn money for a wedding. I think asking for donations in any way (even if there is some sort of "gift" involved) wouldn't be acceptable in my circle.
You could always babysit or help friends with something in exchange for money, and then put that money towards the wedding.
No, sorry. I think a lot of etiquette rules are a bit antiquated and/or can be fiddled with, but your wedding is just that: YOUR wedding. If you want to throw a party, you should be the one paying for it (or your family, if they happen to offer monetary assistance). There are a lot of things FI and I want that just can't happen because we don't have the means for them. Think about what you most want from your wedding, make those things a priority and let everything else go/find a different approach (such as DIY or hiring a friend for less). The idea of having fundraisers for a wedding is tacky, tacky, tacky.
Besides, if you're giving someone a prize for "donating", you're just going to eat some of that money in the costs to produce/buy the prize, be it T-shirt or something else. So why not save all that time + money so it can go to your wedding?
Wanted to add that I would ABSOLUTELY do something like this for an animal rescue, cancer fundraiser, to help someone pay for a life-changing surgery, etc.
A wedding? No way. It costs $50 for a marriage license, and that's all you need to buy to become legally married. The party is superficial in the grand scheme. Asking others to donate to your wedding makes my stomach turn.
Nope. My FI friend ( whom i sort of despise) sent us a save the date with a link for us to donate money to his wedding. um, no. it only reconfirmed the fact that I do not care for him that much. BUT I have heard that people do this. send a link and instead of a wedding present you donate money for the honeymoon...but his friend had the link for the actual wedding. It is a fine line between tacky and borderline acceptable. Weddings are ridiculously and unecessarilt expensive. It is hard but very possible to have a beautiful humble wedding reception.
It's one thing to sell something to make some extra money to help towards the wedding (card making, knitting, tshirt printing) or you can get an additional job. It's another to actively fundraise/ask for money.
Really? Absolutely not. That shirt isn't worth $5 IMHO. If you want a wedding, you pay for it, not your guests.
um, (lol in my head...) after looking at the shirt...that's just weird. I don't know why anyone would ever want to wear such a shirt, much less pay money for it!
yeah, um no. I wouldn't make anyone else pay for my birthday party or baby.
A wedding is no different. It's a want. Not a need. And certainly not even sorta close to more traditional fundraising causes like medical costs, natural disasters, or causes (cancer, women's shelters, homelessness).
NEVER! But the plus side is that if someone did something like that, I think they would be able to afford any type of wedding they wanted, because there would be like 5 people there.
I also voted "depends on the item". If it was something actually cute and properly priced that I actually wanted, I wouldn't necessarily be turned off by a by-line that notes the money is going to the wedding, but I wouldn't throw away my money on useless things just because.
Like a PP said, anything you buy helps somebody pay for something. I'm sure plenty of Etsy sellers and what not have short term buying goals that they're selling their stuff to make a little cash on the side.
Also think about it this way, if you went with those specific shirts from that site. Consider about how much people would be willing to donate. Maybe $20? Then you have to buy a $22 T-shirt. You could be out money in the long run.
I don't know anything about you or your social circle and whatnot but most people I know aren't rolling in the dough right now and are paying on their own expenses.
I'll echo what others have said, it's pretty easy to get baby sitting work or get some yarn and needles and knit scarves to sell on etsy. Do you have any other crafty skills you could use to your advantage and set that money aside to be only wedding money? Most people I babysit for pay about $10/hour so it's really not a bad gig. :)
I could see my close family donating in some way for the shirt... but I would never, ever ask it of someone I didn't know (or even someone I did).
A wedding isn't a charity (except for those "Make a Wish" occasions). And you shouldn't act like it is. No one would or should demand you to have a wedding that is out of your means. And if they do, then cut them or ask them to pay! 
I would ABSOLUTELY buy a T-Shirt to help out...I don't see what the big deal is. I personally would not 'fundraise' but that's just me (and apparently everyone else that's responded). Granted...I probably wouldn't spend more than $10-$15 but still...I see nothing wrong with helping someone get the wedding of their dreams. I don't consider it rude and I feel like if someone isn't interested in helping support, then they don't have to. As long as you're not harassing anyone I don't understand why it'd be such a huge deal.
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Hello Everyone!
I am new to this site and it's great to see so much lively dicussion! I've added this site to my growing list of resoruces for advice and ideas.
We recently became engaged and after a month of planning the details we are deep into the cost cutting phase of the process. I've been doing a lot of research on alternative funding options and I saw a post on this forum about someone asking for donations. There seemed to be a negative response to that idea, but I found another engaged couple with a slightly different approach. They created a t-shirt with the message "this shirt helped pay for a stranger's wedding" printed on the front. Is this a step up? Socially acceptable? I was thinking about pursuing a similar idea and would love some feedback!
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