Post # 1
I planned to attend a friend’s wedding this Saturday evening. (got a gift, RSVP’d yes, etc.) Last night, though, I found out a family member’s (in law) funeral is scheduled for Saturday afternoon. I know I need to go to the funeral, and I’m sure the bride’s family will understand, but I really want to try to make it to both. Traveling wouldn’t be an issue, but I’m not sure I would make it in time for the ceremony. DH suggested I leave him with the grieving family after the funeral and meet up with my mom (also originally invited) at the reception.
What should I do? I’m leaning toward not going to the wedding at all, but this will be the third wedding this year I’ve had to miss out on due to scheduling conflicts!
Post # 3
ick, that’s difficult. if it were me, i would take your husband’s advice. emotionally, it will be strenuous, but i would want to pay my respects to both.
Post # 4
I would go ahead and go to both, even if it is just for the reception. Unless it will create family drama to leave or you were close to the person that passed, in that case I would stay at the funeral.
Post # 5
I would try to go to both. Not to sound inconsiderate but nobody will notice if you miss the ceremony. That sounds bad like you’re only going for the free food but often the bride & groom don’t even see people at the ceremony. I’m sure they’d love to have you at the reception.
we had a couple who did this. no clue why – I think they were just late or got lost. They did tell us though but I wouldn’t have known!
Post # 6
I would try to make it to the wedding! If you see the bride and groom at the reception, you’ll probably end up telling them where your husband is at, anyway, so they’ll know why you were late.
Post # 7
I would go to both. As PP said, the bride and groom probably won’t even notice if you miss the ceremony. It sounds like you would really like to go to the wedding, so I say just go.
Post # 8
Thanks for all your answers. It really helps a lot. I want to do both, but don’t want to be rude to anyone. It’s true that people (esp. the B & G) don’t really notice if you’re at the ceremony – there were people at my ceremony, but I didn’t know they were there because they didn’t’ stay for the reception.
To top it off, another close friend is having a birthday party the night before! It’s hard to juggle all these events, but I guess that’s what life’s all about, right?
Thanks again for your help!
Post # 9
I like your husband’s suggestion. It’s definitely going to be an emotionally exhausting day, but it would e really great to be able to make it to both.