Post # 1
What is the funniest/weirdest thing your parents have wanted/suggested/pushed for/or brought up for your wedding?
Mine would be, my stepfather has brought up half a dozen times about the chicken dance because I said it was on the no-play list. Apparently he feels a wedding isn’t a wedding without it and has stronger feelings about it than I ever could have imagined. Still not doing it, but it’s funny the fixation he has on this.
And my mom is obsessed with getting to drive a golf cart. Our ceremony is in a valley with a steep hill, so for safety, a golf cart will be chauffering our guests from the parking lot to the ceremony. My mom has repeatedly mentioned wanting to drive a few laps around the ceremony area with my FMIL! I’ve said I’ll see if she can drive it around the parking lot after the ceremony. But it’s the weirdest thing and I’ve got no clue why she’s so obsessed with driving a golf cart! However, every wedding discussion, she brings up driving the golf cart! LOL
Post # 3
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
My mom wants us to have our reception at a place that is $12,000 to rent…ummm no that’s more than the budget we have for the ENTIRE wedding. Apparently because it looks “classy”.
She also wants my daughter (who is my flower girl) to wear a big poufy, formal flower girl dress because that’s what my daughter wants to wear. Well sorry to say but it isn’t my daughters wedding its mine and we are having a casual, rustic wedding. NO poufs.
Post # 4
@Cappugcino: This is an awesome thread. Looking forward to reading these! Love that your mom has an obsession with being a golf cart driver. 🙂
@NurseMandie: “NO poufs” is an excellent wedding motto.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2014 - Lodge
@jerzepi: LOL I never thought of it as a wedding motto but I suppose it should be!
Post # 6
@Cappugcino My cousin had the golf cart chauffering people to her wedding location (on a bluff) and it was totally awesome. We had so much fun and got a great family Christmas photo on it!
My mom asked for cocktail napkins with our date and names on them. It’s not weird, but something I didn’t think of or wanted to spend money on (so she is). I doubt people will really notice them and they’ll be thrown away, but whatever makes her happy.
My dad asked for Terrapin as one of our premium beers (he’s a beer snob). Little requests that caught me off guard, but perfectly fine with me. I’m sure as we get closer, I’ll start hearing more requests.
Post # 7
@Cappugcino: Talking about the wedding several weeks back, my mother said “….and when I walk you down the aisle….” I stopped her and said “He is actually walking me down the aisle.” She got pretty irrate, since I guess she assumed that because my dad is deceased SHE would be doing it.
Post # 8
My MIL requested that we play the national anthem of the US and the country where my fiance was born at the reception.
We said no, and thankfully she hasn’t requested it again.
Post # 9
My dad really REALLY wanted us to get married on a cruise ship, Lord knows why.
My mom has had… a million. The one that’s been driving me the most crazy has to do with the fact that we are just having dinner after our intimate wedding, not a full-blown reception with a DJ, dancing, etc. She is totally insistent that FI and I get a picture of us fake-dancing! I have no idea why she’s so obsessed with it, but she brings it up EVERY time we talk about photography.
Post # 11
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@Cappugcino: My mom wanted to be present at our first look. …. That did not happen.
In the very early planning stages when we hadn’t yet set a date, she said if we had a summer wedding she wanted all of our family members with classic cars to drive them and turn it into a parade/cruise. Apparently she didn’t realize that being atheist we weren’t going to have our ceremony at a seperate location (church) and have to drive to the reception.
ETA: My FIL wanted a copy of all songs played at the reception because he doesn’t like dancing to songs he’s never heard before.
Post # 12
My FI suggested it also be a pool party since the backyard where the reception is held has a pool. “There is a pool babe; people are going to want to swim…”
Post # 13
So far my parents have behaved themselves because they are amazing people (although my mother had a Pinterest board up and running within hours of hearing of our engagement, which I find adorable!), but my aunt has been oddly fixated on including Piping Plovers (a type of shorebird) in the wedding. Backstory – my first job with my current employer was two summers of monitoring my state’s breeding population of the endangered Piping Plover. She has somehow taken this to mean that plovers will forever be a major and cherished part of my life. PIPL cake topper, PIPL design on my dress… and she’s the type of person where I can’t tell if she’s joking or serious. There will be NO PIPL motif at our wedding, and I can’t figure out if this will actually disappoint her!
Post # 14
My father wants a keg of Sprecher (local brewery) rootbeer. He goes on and on about how much better it is on tap. Our venue says it’s extra for them to bring in Sprecher products, but since my parents are paying for the reception food and drink I think it’s actually going to happen.
Post # 15
@Phamnomenon: haha I’m totally picturing your aunt giving you a wedding present that is a lovingly hand-embroidered framed picture of a Piping Plover in a heart with you and your FI’s names and your wedding date …
My family was pretty normal (as I recall), but we did have a number of people ask if DH and I were going to include our pet snake in the ceremony. Like, these people honestly, genuinely wanted to know if we were going to bring the snake to our wedding. Like, what? No. F**k no. I mean, F**K NO! What is the matter with you people!!??!?!!
Post # 16
My mom must have bought a bridal magazine or gotten on pinterest because she is obsessed with new wedding trends. She thinks it’s just insane that we’re not doing a late night snack at our wedding because you “have to do that, everyone does” as well as a sweets table or candy buffet.
She seems to be forgeting that until a year or two ago these things were not common, nor did we have either at my sisters wedding a few years ago.