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I don't think 25 is that young! If you went to a traditional college, you've been "on your own" for at least 3 years. That makes no sense to me! I hope to be married just before my 26th birthday if all goes according to plan. My mom was 23. To me, if you're done with school and/or have a steady job you're not too young!
@love108: I agree but I also feel young for a big city too (married at 24, living in NYC).
@redheadem: @love108: Yes, I don't think 25 is young in a lot of places, but I also live in the NYC area so I feel like here it's pretty unusual. None of my friends are engaged and most of them are still single! We're pretty much the first ones getting married in our circle. It's funny how perpspectives can change so much depending on where you are.
lol that's funny! I work at a hospital, and whenever a patient sees my ering they say "oh you're engaged?" which is immediately followed by "how old are you, you look so young?" When I tell them I'm 21 they usually ask if my marriage is arranged. haha.
@mrscheetos: Omg, I can't believe they actually ASK you if your marriage is arranged! That's crazy, I would never even think to do that, haha.
Isn't 24 the average age for a woman's first marriage? And I'm sure the average for men is 26, so . . . You guys aren't marrying young, you're marrying average, she didn't know what she was talking about! And many happy returns to you!!
I thought the average now was about 26-27, but you're right, it does depend on the area. Most of my friends have gotten married at age 23-25. Some haven't married yet at all, one was 20. But I am from suburbia and went to college in a small town. A lot of those marriages were college sweethearts.
I get that ALL THE TIME. I will be 21 when I get married, and I am currently 19. I will be graduating this year, and my FI will be graduating next year, so we will both be done school before getting married. We have currently lived on the top floor of my parents house the last 3 years , and we plan on moving out shortly after getting married. We also have a two year old son, but still we always get these funny/rude comments. At first I took a lot of offence to it, but now I just learned how to shrug it off. We both love each other to peices, and thats all that matters!
@Jade33: The average age for the US for first marriages (as of 2009) is 28.5 for men and 26.5 for women. The coworker still needs a filter though. Even if she thinks every marriage where the bride and groom are younger than average is doomed to fail (which is silly), her remark was still rude.
@Jinxstar: Yeah, she sounds pretty socially awkward... My dad was like, "Well, here's hoping!" haha
Well, if YOU are too young, then I need to watch out.
I will be 22 when we get married, and my fi will have JUST turned 21. We've been together for over 3.5 years, and will have been together for 5 when the wedding comes around.
I never get that from friends/family. But at work one of my co-workers (she used to be my boss) would make comments like: I made sure my daughter doesn’t get married young (shes a yr younger than me) I want her to have fun and live life O_o
I always hated when people would say comments like, "oh wow, you're young! Robbing the cradle huh?" I am 25, going on 26, Hubby is 23 going on 24. Yes he is younger, but only by a year and a couple of months. It does get annoying but i honestly dont think 25 is young to get married. I've been with my bf for almost 9 years... It was about time we tied the knot i must say.
I think it is shocking what people think is "too young" to get married now. Just a few generations ago it was totally acceptable (and expected) to get married in your teens. Granted, you were also expected to be financially stable without parental support. I think that is the main criteria. If you can't support yourself once you are married, it is likely that you aren't ready. However, I don't think there is any magic number. On a similar note, I think it is a diservice we are committing on young people by making them feel like they shouldn't have to grow up and take responsibility until their mid to late twenties. Since when is that ok?
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My dad recently told me about a funny comment he got at work about me getting married young, and I thought the rest of you young brides may appreciate it as well:
He was talking about my wedding and one of his younger coworkers (probably late 20s/early 30s) asked him how old I am. He told her I'm 24 and will be 25 when I get married. She gave it a moment's thought, and then said doubtfully, "Oh well...it might work..." I'm sure we could have found this offensive, but my whole family thought it was more hilarious than anything, especially that she actually said that out loud to him! He said she's known for making tactless comments, and I guess it must be true... FI and I have been together for 7.5 years anyway, so it's "working" so far, haha.
We are young to be getting married, especially where I'm from and where I live now (two big cities). A lot of people comment on that, but it doesn't bother me. I mostly just laugh it off. Any of the rest of you get some crazy comments recently?