Post # 1
My FI and his step-dad are not close. His mother passed away 7 or 8 years ago and he sees his step-dad occasionally (although he is paying for our modest rehearsal dinner).
So FSFIL (future step-father in law : ) calls FI a few days ago and asks if his brother and sister were invited. Wedding is in 15 days. FI says no…we’re having a pretty small wedding. But he says he’ll talk to me about it. We decide to invite them and give some kind of excuse so as not to hurt feelings.
Then…FI gets an email from SFIL. He says here’s my brother’s email, tell him whatever you want. But if he comes, could you please not sit him at the same table as me!
What?! I know he and FI have communication issues, but do you want us to invite them or not? We went with no. Craziness!
Post # 3
That’s bizarre! Was he insisting they be invited to the wedding? Maybe he only asked because he didn’t want to see them…
Post # 4
Sometimes, I just wish people would say what they really mean. Maybe he was really trying to ask if they were invited so he had a heads up about it? How frustrating. And there is nothing more irritating than people asking not to sit by certain people. You can handle dinner with someone you aren’t fond of, especially your own family. It’s one stinking dinner, not a two week vacation. Eat and suck it up.
Post # 5
Well…his issue is that his family members are Mormon and he’s planning to drink.
It’s gotten worse though. We decided not to invite the step-uncles and step-aunt, but one of them left FI a message that he wants to come and bring his daughter and that he’ll pay us $1000. First, he doesn’t own a cell phone, lives with his other brother and doesn’t have $1000 but geez… Isn’t it already awkward enough. He literally told FI. “I was like a father to you in the 70s!” Yeah, that was 35 years ago.