- 6 years ago
This is my “engaged!” post, although my fiancee and I are basically married. We don’t need to be married legally for our relationship to be valid, and becoming officially engaged hasn’t changed anything in our relationship. We’ve always known that we would get married, and he’s asked me plenty of times before if i would marry him (actually he said that he wanted to marry me the night he asked me to go out with him). His proposal was just something romantic that he wanted to do, a romantic moment that he didn’t want us to miss out on just because we’re already like a married couple.
My fiancee is really bad at keeping secrets from me, especially surprises he has planned for me. For example, I already knew that he was going to finally “propose”. Hell, even my parents knew that he was going to do it. I just didn’t know what day he was going to choose … and I tried really hard not to figure anything out because I didn’t want to know. Unfortunately, by a fluke, and because he is a really bad liar, I figured out the day. He chose 11/18 because 18 is lucky in both Chinese culture and Judaism. It wasn’t too lucky for him though :/ He originally wanted to take me to the top of Mt. Skinner to watch the sunset … except there was a snowstorm which severely damaged trees all around the valley. So Mt. Skinner was out of the running. I was also visiting him for two weeks, so it was extremely hard for him to finish putting his plans together while I was there. I figured out where he was taking me right before we got there because he needed me to read the driving directions to him but forgot that because I also drive … I knew where we were going.
He ended up taking me to the lakeside of my alma mater, which would have been romantic if I were still attending college, but didn’t seem terribly romantic because of it’s ravaged battlefield-like scenery post snowstorm. He had tried to time the sunset so that we could watch it together while he proposed to me … but unfortunately we were late. I passed by whole trees that had fallen into the lake and torn up the bank with them. I got scared to walk further and thought to myself “oh my God, this is so not romantic. This is not what I would have ever wanted. I don’t want to progress any further if this isn’t going to be romantic.” Turns out that he had only seen this spot by the lake at night, when the torn up bank isn’t visible …. Then he laid a tarp down on the park bench next to the lakeside and got me all tucked into the blankets he’d brought. He brought out his laptop to play a video he’d made for me … except it refused to play 4 times! When it finally did play, it was very cute and romantic. He sang in the video, and had made up really sweet lyrics to the tune of Shall we dance? Then he got down on one knee and pulled out a speech from his pocket. He was so nervous, and so happy because this moment he’d been planning, where so many things had gone wrong, was finally happening. Now … I’m slightly sadistic and I’d been planning on saying no at first just to have a little fun with him .. but then he started crying when he read his speech. He could barely read it, and then he couldn’t get his coat open to get the ring box out. Of course I said yes. He was so cute when he was crying. Afterwards he brought out some wine, and chocolates, and the photo album he had made which was featured in the video.Then he said he would propose to me every year afterwards.
All in all, it was nothing like how I would have ever imagined. I learned that proposals are not perfect the way that you read them in stories, magazines, etc … But it was horribly funny, cute, and romantic and utterly memorable. I’ll always remember his crying, sniffling face and how cute that was. That’s the detail I conveniently leave out when people ask us about our engagement story, but it’s always the detail I think most fondly of. I look forward to seeing what other awkward, funny, possibly disastrous and horribly romantic proposals life will bring in the future, but I’ll always remember this first, very special proposal.