Post # 1
I’m curious (and maybe looking for a laugh to help alleviate MY fears) to know what everyone’s wedding “fears” concerning family are.
For instance, my family on my Dad’s side finds fault in EV-ER-Y.THING. I know IF they show up they will say “You’re wearing a dress with color in it!?!?!” or “Why aren’t you wearing shoes?!?” or “Is that how you’re doing your hair?” It’s on the beach. Dear Granny will announce that my ass looks huge.Of course it does, Granny! I have your body. Duh.
My Mom obsessed at my sister’s wedding over a ham. A HAM?! She had a potluck type of deal and my Mom bought a ham and accused some woman of stealing most of it. Mommmmmmm shhhhhhhh. Needless to say, we will be having a restaurant dinner reception.
My mother also harassed my Dad most of the night at my sister’s wedding. They have been divorced for 20 years. “Why won’t your father talk to me? What’s his problem?” Hello?!
I’m trying to keep this light and NOT include the toxic, someone will get drunk, fight, cry stuff…
Post # 3
I was afraid my SOs grandma would hug him and tell him he had “gotten so fat” in front of all of our guests!!!
She’s done this…many times and it’s horrifying!!!!
Post # 4
My fear is that my in-laws will stay seated the whole night and give my family weird looks for wanting to have a good time…ahhhh
Post # 5
My fear is that some of the ultra-conservative wedding guests will comment on my strapless dress. haha!
Also – I’m scared no one will dance.
Post # 6
I’m afraid my mom will show up looking like an extra for a Tim Burton movie. She’s into the “goth” lifestyle (hellooooo decade-long midlife crisis) and has worn some particularly hideous outfits to previous public events. My plan is to go shopping with her so we can purchase her outfit together… but there’s always the fear she’ll toss in a horrible feather-and-birdcage-veil-covered fascinator.
Post # 7
I forgot about my Mom’s wardrobe!! She is such a ..disaster. When my FI met her it was a white trash dream come true for him. Wolf/dreamcatcher shirt, old tapered jeans, mens sandals…sigh. And reeks of cigs and pot.
She asked the other day what she could wear, I told her a sundress would be appropriate since it’s casual on the beach. She said, “Oh, I’ll wear the dress I wore to your sister’s wedding (8 years ago) with a jacket over it.” I was like..Mom..it’s going to be 90 degrees. But the teal color is right. She said, “oh, wait, I don’t want to shave. I have teal pants.” I’m thinking, whatever, pants. She said, “They’re teal suede. Not suede, but fake suede.” MOM YOU ARE NOT WEARING FAUX SUEDE IN 90 DEGREE WEATHER GAHHHH
Post # 8
@MississippiQueen: Ahahahaha, omg. I thought my mom’s wardrobe was a mess! Maybe you can try my idea and take her shopping? If you can squeeze it into your budget, you could offer to pay that way she won’t have any reason to back out lol.
Post # 9
@garden_bride: Me too!!! My family is all about dancing and having a blast, my FI’s family…not so much.
I’m scarred lots of people wont come, or my sisters will totally blow their bridesmaids duties and get hammered and leave early.
Post # 10
I live in Mississippi and Mom and sister live in FL..I’m hoping my sister will veto any and all questionable outfits. Mom, high heeled cork bottom sandals with very tan pantyhose are a no go!! At least it’s hilarious. FI’s family is going to be in for a wild ride.
My other fear is that everyone will come down to our destination and be like…wait, this is IT?!? Beach ceremony and dinner?? One bridesmaid already said “You’re not having dancing? What are we coming for?” um…we’re in our mid 30s. My clubbing days are over. Sad, I know. We didn’t even want anyone to come soooo you’re coming for dinner. On us. Or don’t.
His family is totally on board. They get the whole “We all live in different states, so let’s all go to the beach and hang out for a week, have a simple ceremony, cry some tears, have some drinks and dinner, take some pics, and then go home” vibe we’re throwing out.
Other fear. I won’t lose weight and someone will say something (my Dad’s side looooves to say things)..”Oh, I thought you were on a diet..you didn’t lose any weight.” Awesome!
Post # 11
Can I join in even though I’m a waiting bee?
SO is what I would describe as “politically neutral”. And whilst I tend to agree with my family politically, it’s never been difficult between us.
Thing is: my family is one political side of left and right and SOs family are the other. Hmmm. And when I say this, I mean my family is politically active too. My brother is a member of his party, my other brother is doing politics and a member of my uncles family (by marriage) set up his own political party (which is getting bigger). Awkward.
Post # 12
Well my new fear for planning is how all of a sudden my FMIL and FI’s aunt etc etc keep wanting to help with decorating and have all these ideas that I don’t like. I know it’s good to have help but I’m good by myself for now! So I guess I’m also scared that on the day of it will end up looking ridiculous if everyone helps set up.
I’m really scared my hair won’t look good. I keep having wedding nightmares that I don’t have my hair/makeup done. I suppose I need to alleviate that by going to some practice hair/makeup appointments!
I’m worried about my FI’s family.. his parents are divorced and his dad side HATES his mom’s side and vise versa. Surely they will behave themselves….
I also worry about WHAT IF I GET SICK? lol what If I have a horrible cold, or have a broken ankle, etc etc. See, even now I feel like I’m jinxing myself.
Post # 13
There are many things I am afraid of between our two families (and just my own irrational fears), here goes:
- Uninvited guests (FSIL, several aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.)
- My mom being in one of her dark, depressed moods where she criticizes everything, ruins my day, and makes everything about herself. She does this for any major occasion, so I’m planning to actually get ready by myself, to be honest.
- FMIL trying to take over the show with her opinions, like she did at FCIL’s wedding.
- Fainting. This is probably my number one fear, I am terrified to faint in front of everyone.
- Music mishaps. Someone is controlling our music, I am terrfied they will play the wrong song or something.
- Decor SNAFUs (forgetting decorations, not having enough time to decorate…)
- FCIL turning everything into an, “I’m pregnant!” parade.
- The younger ring bearer causing distractions.
- Beachgoing strangers watching my wedding/walking through my wedding.
Post # 14
Like 3/4 of my fiance’s side of the guest list are total rednecks. I mean that in the nicest way, I really do love all of them….but our wedding is at a pretty nice place and I’m totally worried that someone will do something stupid/get thrown out.
Post # 15
Oh, I am also worried about people being offended/making fun of the music. My mom, sister, and brother are all really critical of others’ music choices. I can almost bet my life that my brother will be sitting at their table making a mockery of the music for laughs, and my mom will either try to go turn it down, or she will come up to me and say, “Couldn’t you have chosen better music?!”
Then, there are some people in FI’s family that I am particularly worried will be offended at the music. I’m not planning anything vulgar, but I can see his grandparents getting in a tizzy over the Cha Cha Slide. Sorry, but I didn’t pay all of that money for nobody to be out on the dancefloor!
Post # 16
@kswiftbride: It’s like this for us, but the rednecks are all on MY side. I am so scared my aunt is going to come and bring her boyfriend with her (he sounds like Boomhauer from King of the Hill, if you’ve ever seen that). Then, she will be all loud and obnoxious about everything, telling everyone in sight about her experiences with sexual abuse. My uncle’s wife is addicted to pills, so there is a good chance she’ll be completely out of her mind high, trying to steal my decor (she’s done this at other weddings). Last family wedding she shit herself on the dancefloor. My dad’s girlfriend is a convict and a kleptomaniac, so we’ll have to spend our wedding night watching the candy buffet and cardbox like hawks. My dad likes to flirt, shamlessly. I am sure that relatives of FI’s will be solicited at some point during the evening. Sighhh.