- 4 years ago
(For some reason it’s not lettnig me change my wedding date. We’ve moved it up to November. Ok moving on now..)
We went over to our friend’s house last weekend, and 3 of our good friends were there (we have a small group of close friends). So I was going to hand-deliver our invitations to them. I made sure to say “You don’t have to open these now, I’m just delivering them to you.” So they didn’t feel pressured or anything.
Our 3 friends: Joe + Jane (they are a couple) and Sam.
(Quick backstory: after the FI and I got engaged, Sam stopped hanging out with us as often/stopped talking to us. We’ve all been friends for over 5 years. It was no surprised that me and the FI got engaged. Behind our backs, Sam started asking Joe+Jane how much my ring cost. Joe+Jane couldn’t get Sam to tell them why he was asking.)
Joe + Jane were so pleased, they opened it up immediately, and Joe said “well obviously we’re going!” and he checked the little “yes” box and handed it back to me.
I handed an invitation to Sam, and he didn’t even hold it. He said “I can’t go.”
Me: “You don’t even know when it is….”
Sam: I can’t afford to fly out to (U.S. City).
Joe (jokingly): “But… you just said you’re buying the new Xbox when it comes out.”
Me: “Well.. you could have at least opened it later just to look at it. (FI’s name) designed them.”
Sam: There’s no point in me opening it if I cant go.
FI: Wow… O…k…
WHAT THE F*CKING F*CK. HOW MOTHER F*CKING RUDE. He *could have* just taken the invitation and thrown it away later when I wasn’t around if he wanted to. But it’s like he PURPOSELY WENT OUT OF HIS WAY to hurt our feelings and be an assh*le.
But here’s the thing: Neither Joe, nor Jane, NOR the FI, are “confrontational” people. So if I say ANY-THING, I’ll look like a bitch. I’ll look like I’m some kind of hot-tempered psycho bitch.
So I just sat there. I went to the bathroom, and texted the FI with “I want to go home.” And when I got out of the bathroom ,we left.
My head is spinning.
I have no idea what to do. I’m just so angry and my feelings are so hurt, I can’t even see straight.