Post # 1
I am a good few solid years away from having kids, but it’s definitely been on my mind.
What do you do if your set on names, but who knows if you’ll have the ‘right’ gender for it?
We want to honour my great grandmother and name a girl Delaney.
But we are hooked on Ellis, too.
I don’t want to rush off and name a (potential; I could have all boys!!) girl Ellis Delaney, just to ‘cover my bases’, you know?
What do you do in a situation like this?
Post # 3
You wait until you have children, then choose a name that you love for that child, that hasn’t been used by a family member already.
Post # 4
@Haruyou: I have wanted my entire life to have a little girl and name her Rose Mary after my grandmother. FI absolutely HATES the name and will not budge. 🙁
Post # 5
@julies1949: Doesn’t quite help with the names though… How do I know I’ll have girls? Like I said, I don’t want to rush out and name my girl everything just to ‘make sure’, then get pregnant again, and have a girl. lol
@LLRininger: If its after your Grandma, I don’t see why not… Middle name maybe? 🙁 I guess I’m fortunate my SO loves Delaney.
Post # 6
@Haruyou: Don’t worry about it until you’re actually pregnant?
Post # 7
Don’t worry about it until you’re pregnant. If you find out you’re having a girl, then you can decide (with your SO) if you truely want to use the name or not.
Post # 8
@Haruyou: Well I considered it as a middle name but my sister (older and should have at least 1 more child before we even think about trying) said if she has a girl she is using Rose as a middle name and doesnt want me using the name at all. Idk..it just sucks cause I’ve ALWAYS wanted that name. 🙁
Post # 9
I’m just saying hypothetically. Thats all. 🙁
Maybe I’m not being clear, I have a hard time explaining things…
Just, how do Parents figure out what names they want? In my family, passing down names is important. But we really like another girl name.
Hypothetically speaking, what do you do? Since you don’t really know how many kids/genders of said kids your going to have, how do you pick what name?
In a ‘perfect’ world, we’d have two girls. But what if we have two boys, and no girls?
Just a hypothetical, sorry. 🙁
Post # 10
If it is really important to you to pass on both names then I would give them both to the first girl you have, since you never know if you will have another one or not.
Post # 11
We wanted something uncommon, masculine sounding, and somethimg we could both agree on For a boy.
We chose Beckett.
Post # 12
@Haruyou: What about Delaney for any girl and Ellis for a boy. If you end up with two girls, use Ellis as the second middle name. If you end up with two boys, use Delaney as a middle name (since it sounds like a last name, I think this could work).
Post # 13
@Haruyou: I think you’re way overthinking this. You’re nowhere near having kids, but you’re stressing over their names, and that just seems pointless to me. Pick names that you like, if you want to, and then wait and see what happens. FI and I have a girl’s name and a boy’s name picked out, but that doesn’t mean that we’ll have one of each.
Post # 14
Well, you might not have ANY girls, and then you’ll be stressing yourself out very needlessly! If you feel very strongly about the names Ellis and Delaney, use them in the name if you have a daughter. If you have another daughter, you find another name you like.
Post # 15
We’re picking from a long list of names we like, with the knowledge that the baby could be born, and that name could be totally wrong for them!
My Grandma has a story about having the name Patricia picked out for my aunt. Then she gave birth, and said “She’s not a Patricia, she’s a Sandra!”
Post # 16
I’m not a huge fan of “saving” names for children you may never have. In your situation, I’d probably use both names you feel strongly about for the first girl you have (if you have one.) If you end up with another daughter, you’ll find another name you love when that time comes. Or you may only have sons and that just may be the hand you’re dealt. I agree that it’s probably not worth stressing over at this point in time.