- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
Ok, So i just have to start out by saying that I’m not looking for advice or for anyone to tell me to “get over it”….A girl just needs to vent every once in a while! I’m typing this mostly for FI’s sake so that he won’t have to listen to me whine. :]
Soo..when FI and I first started dating, we were 17 and his brother was 19 (we’ll call him Brad). We all did everything together and I couldn’t wait until he got a serious gf and was excited about the possibility of him giving me a SIL some day so it wouldn’t just be “me and the boys”. Well, about 2 years ago, Brad started dating this WOMAN who was 45 years old (he was 23 and Fi & Brad’s parents are 47). Let’s call her Rita. She has 3 kids – 21, 16, & 15. None of our friends or family undesrstand it – she does not look like a “couger” in any way shape or form. She is out of shape and just plain lazy. She has been unemployed this whole time and not looking for a job – just complains about how she doesn’t have money blah blah blah. She has been married three times before, does not want to marry again, and has had a historectomy – so no chance of anymore children.
So anyway, the first year they were together, they were constantly breaking up every other week like a Jr. High relationship. Brad would then buy her something (a washer, microwave, necklace, etc.) and they would get back together. We never took them very seriously, as you can imagine. I’m pretty sure the reason he is with her in the first place is because he has never had that much luck with girls in the past and she is someone that actually pays attention to him (I’m guessing mostly because he buys her things when she can’t afford them herself).
Well about 7 months ago, they got back together and he moved in with her. He bought her a G6 hard top convertible about 2 months ago (its not like he has a ton of money either – he works overtime and took out another loan to pay for it) and then he didn’t even get invited to her Thanksgiving dinner with her parents. SERIOUSLY!? I hate her so much, but I am very polite when I see her because I know its better to keep the peace. I just hate the whole thing because she never lets him hang out with us alone anymore, and we definately don’t want to hang out with her.
They also bought two long hair chihauha’s together a few months ago and Brad carries them around in a pink bag and dresses them up in dresses for Rita…its so sickening and I miss the person he used to be. :[
Now, I am just thrown over the edge…we are tryin to plan our Christmas with FI’s parents around Rita…she has her own kids and family and parents and we can’t find a time that works for all of us. Brad refuses to come without her and won’t see FI’s parents on Christmas because she has her kids that day and again – if she can’t come, he won’t either. What’s worse is he informed us that BOTH of their names will be on their present to each of us (a.k.a…he is going to just write her name on whatever he picks out for us because she has no money) and we need to buy her a present from each of us. This makes me so furious! She isn’t goin to spend any time, effort, or money into our gift and we are expected to do all of the above for her. This woman is sooo greedy and he sees nothing wrong with it because he “loves” her. I seriously want to puke thinking about opening “their” present to me and having to thank both of them graciously…a little immature? maybe, but I don’t care. We have to invite her to our wedding and I will be damned if she thinks she is bringing her kids, as well!
Ok – end of vent, I promise. Thanks for reading…and if noone read the whole thing, oh well…I feel a little better just getting it off of my chest.