- 3 years ago
Hi Bees! This is my first post please go easy on me!! My FI and I have been engaged for a while and are still trying to figure out this whole wedding planning thing. I’ve tentatively booked a Ballroom at a local hotel but I got the cost estimate and it seems crazy expensive- almost $20 grand! We’ve got a guest list of 165, and are planning the wedding based on 150 because we know some people won’t be able to come. I’ve never been much of a “Wedding Person” and never even really cared if we got married or not, so to me it seems ridiculous to spend that much on food/booze & a room- let alone everything else we would still need! My parents are paying for a large amount of the wedding, and they can afford it, but I still don’t think it’s worth it.
Since getting the estimate I’ve been thinking more and more about a Destination wedding to somewhere like Mexico or the Dominican. Origionally that’s what we wanted to do, but I have a large extended family so we ruled it out. I’ve since decided that I don’t really care if a bunch of my extended family are there or not- because those who really want to be there would come and those who I’m not close too wouldn’t- so it would weed out a lot of people that I don’t really want there. I know Destination weddings are still a lot of money- but that way at least we’d get a kick ass vacation too, not just one day.
Buuuut…. The problem is 2 days after we got engaged, FI’s brother proposed to his girlfriend. They immediatly said they are doing a destination wedding. They haven’t planned anything yet but are thinking Jan/Feb/Mar 2016. FI’s extended family isn’t big and the only overlap between the two weddings would be their immediate family and a few aunts/uncles. I’m wondering if people think it would be rude (at least stepping on some toes) if we decided to do a destination wedding as well. We’d be thinking September/October 2015. Me and his brothers Fiance aren’t crazy close but we are friends and so far we’ve been supportive of each other but it’s a little weird both planning a wedding at the same time and I don’t want to make it weirder. What would you do?