Post # 1
Hi Guys I find this boards really helpful reading what other future brides can say/ will do.
Fiancé kept our wedding rings. He recently had kept it in a duffle bag he don’t use (to keep the interest away from cleaning lady that can possibly have an access to his room). One day he decided to finally take the rings to future mom in law to keep them. To his surprise, my ring is missing.
Same time, future Mother in law claimed she’s also missing some money in her purse. They suspected it was the future brother in law who recently just moved back in their home as he just got of jail. We can’t blame nobody about the robbery but rather move on and just accept the fact that my ring is missing.
Now the brother in laws wife had been snitching and found a receipt on her husbands bag. She reported it to my future father in law & confirmed that receipt is my ring now in pawnshop.
Fiancé’s definitely 2x as hurt as I feel insulted. He traced the pawnshop from the receipt & confirmed my ring in there (thank God for the engraving our names on the ring!!). Fiancé is already concerned about the wedding cost and thinks it’s more cost efficient to buy the ring back at the pawnshop than buy a new one. In fact, fiancé can’t afford to buy a new one either.
I don’t want that ring anymore. Idk how I feel about getting another one either. I don’t mind getting my own ring (financially) but I also don’t know how I should feel about it. Just being robbed overall.
I feel unwelcome by this situation that of all things, why only steal my ring? Why not both pairs?
What would you if u were in my shoes?
Post # 3
I would get that ring back as its engraved. Sorry this happened to you.
Post # 4
I’ve been robbed, and the sick feeling goes away for the most part over time, but a small bit of it stays always. But, the association of the sick feeling with the object stolen does go away, and you have your stuff back! (I did not get back all the things that were stolen, but the ones I did I was glad to have. They didn’t feel tainted, they felt MINE).
Go get your ring back. If you don’t mind filing a police report, you can get the ring back for free because that pawn shop accepted stolen goods. I understand that may cause more family drama because your Future Brother-In-Law will be in even more trouble. I would also explain all this to the pawn shop owner, since you can use it to bring the cost down (if you want to pay and not file the police report).
But all of you need to do this openly in front of Future Brother-In-Law so he knows you’re on to him and cleaning up his mess. He will keep stealing from you all, and he needs to know he got caught.
Post # 5
I would get the ring back and press charges. You BIL deserves to be sent back to prison. You don’t steal from family.
Post # 6
I would report the ring as stolen. Future Brother-In-Law should be held accountable for his actions.
Post # 7
@UpstateCait: I agree. But even if you can’t being yourself to report him, I’d cut all ties.
Post # 8
After my fiasco yesterday (my FI’s car was broken in to and I lost a good amount of things), I’d sure as hell get my ring back. File a police report screw your Future Brother-In-Law I’m sick of people getting away with this. I might have had a different view on Friday but not now.
Post # 9
@UpstateCait: Agreed. Go get your ring.
Post # 10
What a mess. I imagine you feel the ring is tainted. But buying your own ring would be tainted. It’s there ritual you could perform to cleanse the ring in your mind. Maybe have you minister bless it or do a crystal cleanse? It is the ring you man worked hard to buy for you.
Post # 11
i believe if a pawn shop accepts stolen merchandise (even if they didn’t know it), you can get it back if you file a police report about the items stolen (details) and if the merchandise at the pawn shop matches the police report exactly.
Post # 12
File a police report and get your ring back. Your Future Brother-In-Law had not authority to pawn the ring and the pawn shop should return the ring to you- it’s stolen property!
Post # 13
I don’t understand why you wrote up this whole story, but didn’t discuss why you didn’t immediately go to the police. You’re worried about someone who isn’t thinking about you. He didn’t care about the sadness and financial impact to you. If he didn’t care about FAMILY do you think he cares about other people? Sending him back to jail isn’t JUST about you.. It’s about protecting society. That ring represents something more if it already went through something and found its way back to you! Girl get your ring!!!
Post # 14
Go to the police and file a report. Plain and simple. I believe the pawn shop has to hand it over, as it is stolen. This jerk has stolen from his brother and his mom. He needs to pay for what he’s done. Especially if this is a pattern of criminal behavior.
And I agree with what Mrs. Timmy said. Have it blessed, cleansed, whatever you have to do. If you loved it before, and it’s the ring he picked out for you, don’t let this criminal ruin that for you.
Edit: If yours has stones, and your fiance’s is more plain, he may have thought the other one wasn’t worth as much. And do not buy it back from the shop. Tell the owner it was stoen and, again, file a police report. This person will keep doing it if he doesn’t get taken to task for it.
Post # 15
There’s no need to buy the ring back if it was stolen. Report it, let the police give it back to you. Make Future Brother-In-Law accountable for his actions.
I don’t really understand how the ring feels tainted now.. I had my purse stolen years ago with meaningful things in there, and there’s so many times I feel guilty about it being gone, although it wasn’t my fault, and just wish I had it back.
I still get livid when I think about it and if I knew who did it, you better believe I’d make that person feel just as miserable as I am. Taking away someone elses property is not okay.
Post # 16
I echo the PP in that you should go to the police and get the ring back for free. And report Future Brother-In-Law.
He has the capacity to do a lot more damage along the way if he’s not caught out now. I know a couple who had most of the wedding gifts stolen from their car by the bride’s sister and the sister’s husband (both of whom were recently out of jail). They didn’t find out until they got back from their honeymoon, by which time all of the stolen gifts were sold or used and broken.
Don’t let the situation get worse with your brother in law – nip it in the bud now before he takes something completely irreplacable.