Future dated TTC pushed even further into the future :(

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

(((HUGS))) sorry to read this ;(  Hopefully, it is like you said, sooner!!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

@Mrs_Pacman:  There’s never a “perfect” time. You never have enough money, a big enough house, enough free time, etc.

Life has a way of going on happening even if all your plans aren’t lined up perfectly. If you’re moving and you throw a baby into the mix, it’ll all work out. If you wait until you’re settled for a year, that’ll work out too.

I’m guessing you’re young so you probably have time. But here’s my advice from a 30+ year old Bee: enjoy your marriage. Enjoy each other; enjoy being just Mr. And Mrs. for a while. You can never have this time back–when it’s only the two of you. A baby is wonderful, but so is what you have now. 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Baby fever hit me HARD after our wedding.  I went from wanting to wait a couple of years to wanting to try immediately.  We decided no matter what we would wait until our 1st year anniversary to start trying.  Looking back I am so thankful we decided to wait.  The first year or marriage is so special and awesome and deserves attention.  I think this might turn out to be a great thing for you guys 🙂  Good luck!

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

That’s tough!! I really do think it’s smart to wait until after he’s settled a bit in the job, though. We relocated for me to take a new job last year, and I knew as soon as I got here that it was a terrible fit. I only lasted six months there before I quit, and even then that was because the owner lied to me to get me to take the job and then tried to blackmail me. One big adventure at a time!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Mrs_Pacman:  I’m sorry ttc is pushed back, but I think you’re making a really smart decision. I know it’s hard! Hugs!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015

@Mrs_Pacman:  At least you got a definite answer. DH still thinking that in a couple of years will be best. We keep pushing it because we are not in the best position financially and health wise, so waiting is the best thing; although I feel sad and dissapointed that others can and we can’t. I completely understand your feeling. I think we already got our Mr. and Mrs. alone time. Best wishes!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@Mrs_Pacman:  I agree that the first married year is so special! I can’t imagine having baby showers and doctors apts. in the first year! Going right from bridal showers to baby showers sounds exhausting! That time between will be good to relax and just enjoy each other. It’s the only time you get to be just you two. DH and I are going to wait another year and a half to start ttc; this is basically based on our age (mid twenties) and the fact that we want to have ideally at least 2 married years just the two of us before adding to our family.

Good luck! Just try to focus on your wonderful upcoming wedding for now. As my wedding got closer I started feeling baby fever too, I think it’s just because you are experiencing your life moving forward and dreaming of the future because it is so close and tangible! 🙂

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