Future father in law as photographer?

posted 3 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

No, no, no, no, no. 

All your reasons are completely valid. Tell your fiancé how you feel, give the reasons you listed and maybe just give him a sense of how much work is involved. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would say thanks but no thanks. Just be nice in saying no. I wouldn’t do it either if I were you. You are making the right choice.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Oh and maybe as a compromise you can have his dad take some cutesy engagement photos. You can use them if you like for your save the dates or use it to make your guest book if you like. I think it’s a lot less pressure and you’re still appreciating his talent. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

I don’t think this is a good idea.  He wouldn’t be in any family photos and would spend the entire day working and not enjoying the wedding.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

You are comletely right, it is a terrible idea!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Someone who takes pictures of boats is not going to know enough about indoor/outdoor/natural/artificial light shifts, and isn’t going to be used to getting the photojounalistic action shots he needs to be comfy with to successfully shoot a wedding.

Even if he wasn’t your FFIL, I would not recommend you use him.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@gingerfrazzle:  If he’s not a wedding photographer, then NO! My mom happens to be a professional wedding photographer, and like you, I wanted her to come as my mom and enjoy the wedding. But she INSISTED on taking our pics, and I’m going to let her. But really, if she was not trained as a professional and hadn’t done 300 + weddings, I would not be going for that. I like the idea of him maybe doing some e-pics for you? That way he feels involved?

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@gingerfrazzle:  NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a bad idea.  Period!  

Never do business with friends or family.  Especially when it is something as important as your wedding photos.  Besides, he has no experience with weddings.

My excuse would be that we wanted him to enjoy the wedding and be a guest.

You will regret it forever if you do it.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Oh a million times no. Imagine your poor fiancé having his Dad direct him in kissing shots etc. ew ew ew 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2006

Worst idea in the history of worst ideas.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Nope nope nope nope nope.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I love everyone’s suggestion of having him do some e-pics. Another option might be (depending on what professional photo package you work out eventually) — have him do the getting ready shots for the guys and/or photos from the ceremony set-up. For our wedding, our professional photographer did all the girly getting ready shots, and a very gifted family friend shot tons and tons of images from the setup, and the groom’s party getting ready shots. They were SO MUCH FUN to look through after the wedding, since of course I wasn’t there! This way your FFIL will feel included and important, you’ll have images from the day that you might otherwise not have had, if they suck you won’t mind toooo much, and who knows — because it’s his dad, your fiance might even be able to relax and enjoy those pictures more than if it was a professional taking them!

ETA: In case it wasn’t obvious from my post, though — he should NOT be your primary wedding photographer.

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