Future father inlaw problems.

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissStruggles:  Oh yes… they try to have a say in everything, but in a very negative way.

 

They also told us we should wait, get financially stable, yadayadaya (we graduated two years ago with our Masters and have been working full time since then… whatever). We obviously didn’t listen. It’s our lives, our marriage, and we decide what that means!

 

Post # 4
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@MissStruggles:  FIL tried to tell us where to live. It obviously didn’t pan out for him. He also thinks that he has some hold over DH where he should know our business, especially financial business. He is very rude.

Post # 5
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5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MissStruggles:  …Mr. 99’s Dad is a really pious, manipulative man who happens to be terrible with money and has a deep seeded resentment and lack of respect for women as a rule….I only met him once before we got married, but once we did…he started to call, asking for money, which was absurd to me because all of the reasons he was short on cash, were totally his call and all of them bad…..finally, after I had a bellyfully of his guilt tripping bullshit I told Mr. 99 if his father ever asked for money again, he had to ask me himself…he told his father, and THAT never happened again, because he’s completely unaware of how to deal with a woman that he cannot control.

Be yourself, set your boundaries, and when this guy crosses the line, tell him to back the hell up….respect is a two way street and if you can’t give it, you sure as hell aren’t going to get it.

Post # 6
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Nona99:  “Be yourself, set your boundaries, and when this guy crosses the line, tell him to back the hell up….respect is a two way street and if you can’t give it, you sure as hell aren’t going to get it” 

EXACTLY!

Post # 8
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MissStruggles:  Another piece of advice: don’t start the fight/discussion/whatever with him yourself. It’s your SO’s fight. Tell SO how you feel without pushing and let him deal with it. You’re an easy target and it will give your FIL plenty of ammunition against you. 

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