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    LammChop    July 21, 2012   Montana

    So my future father in law is a drama queenLaughing. He came to visit last summer went home and told people that had to camp out in the yard because there was no room in the house for him. Thats a lie. Then told the step daughter's mom that I took my FI's daughter to see an ob/gyn. Yes this has me seeing red. My FI says don't worry about it. I say keep him away from me. So to keep the peace I havent said anything. The wedding in in 61/2 months and I already know the minute I see him I am going to lose my temper.

     He is one that likes to run the show. He is already calling and wanting to know how we are going to get peole to the wedding. Ummm my response was can they drive? If not take a taxi! Then he tells the FI , "Im paying for the rehearsal, there for I am going to invite all my friends" . My response I will dig deep and pay for it my self.

        What am I going to do? He know I have no family and no one to run interference!!! The FI just blows him off. I am not use to someone telling me what to do like that. I am not having his drama and I reall want to confront him before the wedding. Am I wrong?

     
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    tksjewelry    June 25, 2011   Omaha

    I wouldn't confront him, but I would keep him at arms length in the planning process.  Give him no duties or responsibilities.  It sound like your FH is used to this kind of behavior, as he prob has had to deal with this his whole life.  I would just chalk it up to him being "THAT" relative and ignore what you can.  I am sure that most people that have been around him long enough will know exactly how he is.  Killing with kindness almost irritates those types more than getting mad, you know that will turn around on you making you the bad guy, and you don't want that.

     
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    misrusticj    January 28, 2012  

    I agree with not giving him any responsibilites. If he feels like doing the rehersal entitles him to do whatever he wants them cut him out of that equation and stand your ground! 

     
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    Your fiance needs to stand up to his father and not let him treat you like this.  It's not a good sign if he won't.

     
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    LammChop    July 21, 2012   Montana

    Thank you ladies for the advice. I will do the best I can.

     

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