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    phatkat811    June 17, 2010   live: Cincinnati, OH; wedding: CT

    If anyone out there could send some thoughts, good vibes, prayers - whatever it is that you do - the way of my future FIL, it would be greatly appreciated.

    He's had cancer for a few years. My FI has gotten two emails in a row from him that the experimental treatment he was getting is not working and he seems to be getting worse. He's not sure what they're going to recommend at this point.

    He's a great man who I would be proud to have as a FIL. He said he was so excited about our wedding and that was giving him strength to hang in there. He's the closest family FI has. He and his mom have a strained relationship (parents are divorced, dad raised him) and his brother is deployed in Kuwait and may not make it to our wedding. I really want FIL to be able to make it. He's several states away from us so it's not like we can go see him often.

    FI isn't an emotional guy but he's a bit broken up about it. Me too. Hopefully we can all send some love, prayers, and good vibes his way so he can pull through. Thanks.

     
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    realeastcoaster    July 11, 2009   Canada

    I'm so sorry. :( I will definitely keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

     
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    Monkeygirl    September 5, 2010   Philadelphia

    That's so sad. :(

    I just said a prayer for you.

     
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    Oh goodness, I am so sorry! That is so sad, and my thoughts and prayers will definitely be with you and your FI. I hope they come up with another treatment, too. Hive hugs!

     
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    2PeasinaPod       Philadelphia

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your FI. It sounds like he's a very strong man to have made it through this far, so hopefully, he'll be able to see the two of you get married.

     
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    Miss Pinot Grigio    March 21, 2009   Indianapolis, IN

    Sending prayers and hugs your way. Hang in there. Cancer is a tough thing to deal with, especially when it afflicts family.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    Hoping that things go good for him so he can attend the wedding and his health improves

     
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    VirginiaMarie    January 2011   Austin, TX

    I thought it was very touching when you said "I''d be proud to have him as my FIL".  Be sure to let him know that!

     
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    phatkat811    June 17, 2010   live: Cincinnati, OH; wedding: CT

    Thanks to everyone! It really means a lot to know that so many thoughts and prayers are headed his way from all over the country. He totally deserves them! He is tough and he's a fighter and I'm hoping to hear some good news soon. It's just that he's usually optimistic, so to hear otherwise is really hard.

    It's funny, too - my mom added FI's dad as a friend on facebook (they've never met, haha) and one of the first things she said when I called to tell her we were engaged - after she squealed in my ear - was that she was excited to meet FI's dad! So I'm hoping we're still going to make that happen!

    I'm noticing that I'm coming into the age where people start losing their parents. I've had a few close friends my age deal with this over the past couple of years - sometimes it's lifestyle related but cancer doesn't seem to discriminate much. I very much worry about and appreciate my parents (and my 83 year old grandma who is in good enough health to still be able to walk her hyperactive dog every day!)

    Back to work...all the love is helping me hang today (just got the email this morning)...so thanks!

     
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    JustlikeHeaven    March 6, 2009  

    Im sorry. My prayers are with you!

     
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    MzThrowBac2B    December 2012   Tx

    Im so sorry to hear about the situation. I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers.

     
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    Golden139    August 13, 2011   live in Texas, wedding in Michigan

    I'm so sorry. It must mean so much for your FI to have you and his father to know that you are there to support him.  My thoughts and prayers are with you all to find strength in such a difficult time.

     
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    mrsmdphd    April 17, 2009  

    I'm so so sorry for you and your FI.  I will send lots of good thoughts your way.  I hope you tell your FFIL what you told us about how you feel about him--I'm sure it would mean a lot to him!  ((HUGS))

     
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    Carebear0613    August 14, 2010   Bay Area

    Father in the name of Jesus! I am asking you to come by right now and bless PhatKat811's future father-in-law. Touch his body, his mind, and soul. You Lord are the one that can give him the strength and healing in his body. I believe you can do all things and I am claiming VICTORY In JESUS NAME AMEN!

     
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    noritake22    March 31, 2011   Seattle

    My thoughts and prayers go out to your FIL, your FI, you, and everyone else affected by this. Cancer is really hard to deal with.

    You might want to have your FI get in touch with his brother to see if he can come home. The family advocacy group attached to his brothers service should be able to help.

     
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    phatkat811    June 17, 2010   live: Cincinnati, OH; wedding: CT

    Thanks again to everyone. I think I will send future FIL an email this weekend to let him know the things I've been telling you. :)

    Noritake - I did ask FI to ask his bro if he can get leave for our wedding. I've heard conflicting things about what the army will and won't do as far as that goes, but I have heard about soldiers getting leave for weddings if it's a blood relative. I'm hoping he can be there too!

     
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    jennifer_espos    June 18, 2010   NYC

    Oh gosh that's terrible.  I hope he's able to make it too.  Sending you positive thoughts! 

     

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