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I feel like this is so cliche, but FI's PARENTS ARE DRIVING ME CRAZY. 

Seriously though, I want to un-invite them.

We have only been engaged since the beginning of May and they have been entirely unbearable ever since. I don't even know when the drama started (they were always relatively nice beforehand) but now it is like they don't have anything nice to say at all. FI and I decided on a super short engagement (wedding will be at the end of August) because he is in the military and that is when he will be home. His mom told him repeatedly that there is "no way" we would be able to plan a wedding in such short notice, like she is expecting/hoping to watch it fail. FMIL also refused to give us addresses for her guests while FI asked her for 2 months-- she only got her guest list together when he threatened that we wouldn't be able to invite her people if she refused to give the list. It also makes me really upset that his family REFUSES to help pay for anything, yet has no problem insisting that their random guests be invited at the expense of MY PARENTS, even though my parents didn't invite all of their cousins/aunts/uncles in attempt to keep the wedding smaller.

Today I emailed FFIL to try to see if he wanted to go out to lunch to talk about things and try to smooth things over, and he said NO! He said that we should wait for FI to come home and for the "dust to settle after the wedding" before we sit down and talk. Also, he said that we should just celebrate the wedding and the joining of the families... the problem is though that THERE IS NOTHING TO CELEBRATE!

I guess I am just really offended that they haven't called to say anything nice or supportive about the wedding planning, they haven't invited me over to visit since I have been home (not that I want to see them, I just think it is the polite thing to do... plus I haven't seen FFIL since Feb!), and they sent me a really rude email about their guest list (a dramatic story that MY MOM had to straighten out by calling my future in-laws... it made me feel like we were in middle school!)--- I think they are incredibly rude and FI agrees, he doesn't even want to see them when he comes home on leave.

The topper is that my mom talked to FFIL the other day and he mentioned how excited he was for GRANDKIDS! WHAT THE HECK?! At the rate they are going they will be lucky if we even let them into the wedding, much less if we want to give them visitation rights with our future kids!

I can't take all this drama! We should have eloped.

Or just only invited my family. LOL.

I don't know what they are upset about. They have no legit reason to be upset-- my parents are paying for all of their guests. Their only responsibility is to show up to the wedding and be nice and so far they haven't rsvp'd (maybe they won't come?!) and they haven't been nice. I think they are mad that my parents are paying and not making FI pay for everything... and they also think we should wait longer to get married because we are so "inexperienced." We both have college degrees and FI is in the military, it's not like we're unemployed and on welfare. They are just grumpy, mean people.