Post # 1
I see so many people who are close with their in-laws, and it really makes me sad. I just don’t see me ever being close with mine. We are all so different, and no matter how hard I try they just never really seem to want to give me the time of day. I always envisioned myself being great friends with my sister in-law, but I now know that will never happen because for some reason, even though we are civil to each other, we just do not click on a personal level. I feel that they are very cold to me, and in a way look down on me. What makes it worse is that my FH is extremely close to my family, and they love him to death. I wish there was some way to fix this, but I can’t force a relationship with people who don’t want one with me. What confuses me the most is that I have tons of friends and family members who love me, and I get along with everyone! I am baffled by this….
Post # 3
Oh trust me you are not the only the only one that feels this way, i have been with fh for almost 8 yrs now. His family doesn’t like me either and it will never change for me, even though i have done nothing wrong to them and have always tried to help out or be there for even the little thing’s it doesn’t change. Even after having two children together it didn’t change a thing. I have came to the point to just stop trying b/c no matter what or how hard i try for them to like me it doesn’t matter. It will bother you and you will still wanna try , but you will realize they are not worth it. You will have less stress in your life and remember you have your own family and friends that love you for who you are!!!!!
Post # 4
I used to feel the same way.
My FILs don’t like me either: I’m foreign, have been married twice before, couple of years older than FI and can’t have children. I’ve travelled the world – they’ve barely left the UK. They are homophobic – FI is bisexual (obviously he has never told them). We have nothing in common.
I felt like you during my 1st marriage…MIL didn’t like me, barely ever talked to me. I was only 18 when I first met her, suffered from social anxiety and would barely say boo to a goose. I got married when I was 21 and all of a sudden she thawed a litte – but it was too little, too late for me. I had reached the point where I didn’t care anymore. You can’t make people like you.
I realised it wasn’t anything I had done during my second marriage, where I got on well with my ILs. Concentrate on the people you do get on with, life is too short to bother with people who are not going to appreciate your efforts.