- 4 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
Oh my lord ladies. It’s been a long time since I posted last. Since then my FI and I have finally moved in together and his parents have been a pain in my ass ever since.
Before we moved in together, we lived about 30 min away. I drove there a lot, we saw each other like 6 days a week for basically the last 5 years (on dec. 10), so I’ve spent a lot of time with his parents.
They’ve always been extremely controlling because he’s their only child, and his dad is an obsessive worrier (he’s on meds for it) and he causes a lot of strife in normal things (like when we first started dating and wanted to go to the zoo – he wanted us to leave by 5 p.m. to come home bc it was an hour away and he’d never been there so if anything bad happened he wouldn’t know how to get there ps I’m 28 and FI is 25) Uhh.. Yeah.
But the past couple years have been relatively less stressful in those ways because he’s gotten more used to his overly protected only child spreading his wings (eye roll) But now with the wedding………… the first stunt they pulled (we are having a small wedding, paying for it mostly ourselves and requested our parents only invite very close friends and family)……. they came over to help address the invitations to be sent to their people, told us they had about 8 more *if* we had room for them, said if not it would be no big deal..
Then they called us for 2 weeks after I’d sent them out and said no we can’t have anymore people, trying to get more people added on or “switched”…
A classic line of his dads was “Ok don’t send uncle x one, he doesn’t need one, send his to so and so instead”….. Uh nice try but you’re still adding 1 more person with that move.
The latest has been the flowers for family. I only want parents and grandparents to have them. He called me up last weekend to say he was sorry, but he had taken it upon himself to order the flowers because my FI was blowing him off about it whenever he talked to him about it. He wanted to order them for ALL of our aunts and uncles. And when I told him no, I only want parents and grandparents to have them, he said oh, well.. i’m sorry I already ordered them.
……… which first of all.. call the florist back and say nevermind? BUT that wasn’t even the case! His mom called a few days later and my FI asked her if he’d ordered them yet, and she told him he hadn’t.
SO he LIED to me. To try to get his way.
I mean ….. seriously. My mom hears these stories and just gets livid because she gets so angry for me. She says things like “UH maybe if he wanted to plan a wedding he should have had a DAUGHTER, why is he even sticking his nose in this thing” etc..
I can’t wait for December 8th y’all! Is anyone else dealing with anything like this?