Post # 1
recently my FI and i have done i like to call a financial over haul…. im working to hard and hes business isnt making it any easier for me. so hes changing jobs. lets just say its long over due,,,, hes home once a week and we talk via phone wayyyyy to much that its time he was home and lived a life with me. anyway
we are going through a down fall with finances but its going ot be one dry month….. then bees we will be on track i have cruntched numbers, changed plans, saved like no saver could, planned for the future, okay bees im OCDing over my finances and it feels great to know whats goign on now,
THENNNN my future inlaws handed FI a check for 1000$ without asking me, to continue working when i told him we need to stick together we need this week to work through our slump and the give him the money to send him back out (we owna truck) and pay back when we can
this really went against me whole change our life around, OCDing finaces bc now they have just helped with the problem. the money ran out so take another loan from us and annther person to pay back, oh thanks! just what i wanted!
i feel hurt they did this i feel the interfered with our situation and he would never listen to me over his father, im bitter and angry and i really want nothing to do with paying them back i consider it a stupid investment and its his job to figure it out bc im done supporting trucking as i have completly bailed us out and they just dig another hole.
i havent said anything as they have continued to take when i leave the room about his job hunting and what he should do (hes found another job now) i told him i feel they are talking behind my back he agrees but said it will pass…..
BEEs help not a fan of inlaws and interfeerring!!!!!
Post # 3
So what I’m inferring is that your FI is a trucker. His trucking wasn’t making enough so he was going to get a different job so you guys could be more stable. Your in-laws then decided to loan him $1000. I hope I’m getting that right.
Did your FI talk to you about taking the money or did he take the money and then tell you? Are you positive they expect you to pay it back or could it have possibly been a gift? If your FI will not listen to you over his parents that is your first problem. You guys are becoming a family and it now needs to be about your family and life not what his parents think is best.
Is your FI still planning to get a new job or is he hoping this $1000 will boost his trucking business? The two of you need to have a serious conversation about your finances and expectations. Finances are the most fought about portion of a marriage and something the two of you need to be in line with together. Without further information I would think your in-laws were trying to do something nice or help your son out. They weren’t trying to undermine your financial over hall, how could they have known. This is more an issue with your FI then your in-laws.
Post # 4
no they want the money returned they said to him 6-9 weeks…. its been 1week and he already asked me today that we owe them. they gave him the money the day after we sat them down and told them he was leaving the business trucking… and no 1000$ got him one tank of fuel and that gets us 1 tank and we do two tanks a week. its wasteful money.
we are selling the truck goes in 2 weeks and he starts in 2 weeks so thats why i mentioned the dry month but im working double time and feel why should i work double time when his parents are feeding him so its almost like he dosent know what its like to actually be broke and not be about to get fuel.