Post # 1
So, all my BM ordered there dresses in Navy Blue. I just got a phone call from my future MIL she found a dress in Navy Blue..
Is it ok for her to wear the same color as my girls?? I don’t know how I really feel about it.
Post # 3
when my mom and FSMIL asked what i wanted them to wear, i think my exact words were “whatever you want….BMs are wearing black so i guess that wold look nice if you wore black too.” i figure it’ll look nice to all coordinate. it’s not like she is going to be mistaken for a bridesmaid. i wouldn’t stress over it. at least she’s not wearing white!
Post # 4
my mom doesnt want to wear the same color as the bridesmaids but i think it would fine…they are wearing black. but i keep pushing her to go for red! i dont think it would bother me if my mom or his mom wore the same color as the bm’s. as long as they stay away from white!
Post # 5
I voted no because I think it could be awkward…not because it would be a necessarily be a deal breaker. I think that there are scenarios where it would be fine…like if all your bridesmaids are wearing the same dress or same style that would be pretty different in style from FMIL.
What about your mom? Has she selected her outfit yet? Would she feel weird if FMIL was coordinating with the girls and she wasn’t?
When all is said and done if it’s not a big deal to you, it probably won’t be to anyone else either. If you think it will bug you and you won’t be able to get over it, think of a tactful way to explain that you wanted the girls to stand out and would she mind looking for another color. Since she consulted you it seems like your opinion matters to her. Good Luck!
Post # 6
I voted “Yes” but really its up to you. For me, there are a million other things for me to worry about and I would not be comfortable telling my future MIL to find another dress. How many pictures are really going to have both your MIL AND your BMs in them?
Post # 7
Thank you for your thoughs.. I figured I am going to have bigger battles with my FMIL and just to let this slide.
I have no idea the type of dress she picked but my girls are wearing Bill Levkoff Style # 526. She has not seen the girls dresses either because she couldn’t make the appointment. Her daughter is a BM and I am sure told her what the dress looked like.
My mother is wearing a dress that is in the brown/taupe family.
Thanks again for your advice and help.
Post # 8
I had my mom and my fiance’s mom wear complimentary colors to the bridal party – the girls were in chocolate brown, so my mom wore a bronzey-brown dress that was gorgeous, and my now-MIL wore a dark plum color that matched nicely.