Future MIL driving me insane – NWR

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I think it is incredibly unfair to your 3 year old for your FMIL to only have the 5 year old over. As for your mum’s statement about the 3 year old being ‘her’ baby, that is ridiculous. NONE of them are either of theirs. All three of them are YOUR babies. All children should be treated equally by their grandparents. As the 13 year old is not your FI’s, I wouldn’t expect your FMIL to take her for weekends. But both the 5 year old and 3 year old should be taken there together.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Orchidgirl80:  Ok, but your FMIL should definitely treat the 5 year old and the 3 year old equally! They are BOTH her grandchildren!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Orchidgirl80:  Sorry, don’t wanna threadjack, but I LOVE her name Alasia. How do you pronounce that? And, um, would it be totally creepy if I stole it for my future-baby-names list (very short, Im so picky!)?

 

About FMIL, my sister had 2 kids to one man and her eldest was to her late husband. The father treated the older one like a prince, doted on him and spent every second with him, buying him every gift imaginable. But he passed off the younger son as if he didn;t exist or he wasn’t as good. Bit more severe than your FMIL, but equally as childish.

I know you said you can’t say anything, but I would just ask her next time she takes your 5yo if she would like your 3yo to come too. Maybe (this is totally something I would do) have your mum over for tea or something, when your 5yo usually goes with FMIL, and have her there when you ask if 3yo wants to go too. I would tell my mum to say to the 3yo “Don’t you wanna go to nanas with X too?” Subtle way to get your mum to say she’s actually okay with it?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Orchidgirl80:  I really hope FMIL gets the idea, cause it won’t be soon before she will start to really notice the one-sided-ness.

Thanks 😉

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@Orchidgirl80:  Hahaha, thanks! 😀 Im so in love with this name now 😛

I hope so too, my nephews started to notice around the time the eldest was 4.5, the youngest 3.5. Im sure if it gets resolved by the time she is 5 or so though, she wont remember after a while 🙂

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