Future MIL put a damper on my Thanskgiving

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I don’t think what she said warrants the amount of anger that you are having now…. I mean, it’s not the most tactful comment, but it seems like she recognized that you didn’t appreciate the comment and was trying to make up for it. I’d give the poor lady a little bit of slack.

Post # 4
2884 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i think you might be overreacting a bit (but i havent checked to see if there are ongoing problems with her in other threads)

she was clumsily trying to compliment you. its not like she said “your cousin is an ugly heifer, shes so fugly i want to vomit”. honestly i think ignoring her the entire day is way too much. if you really found it offensive, why not say something like “i find it hurtful when you criticise my cousin even though its complimentary to me” and let it go

Post # 5
1137 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


I don’t understand why you are this angry. Yeah she said you were prettier than you cousin, some people don’t know when they’ve said a little too much. I wouldn’t make a big deal out of it.

As for the rest, she was just saying nice things about you! I get how this can be unconfortable, but something to be pissed about? I don’t think so.

Maybe she is just exited, hyper or a little bit crazy… like we all ladies are.

Enjoy your pie, but with a smile on your face girl! 

Post # 6
3009 posts
Sugar bee

@Lizzy723:  I think you need to change your attitude towards her. I kept waiting for the huge problem & didn’t see it. She seems to be able to tell that you don’t like her & is trying to be in your good graces.

I also read your last rant. It seems fairly innocuous & that perhaps you need to work on letting the little things go before they swallow you up. If she is over involved in your FI’s life, he needs to manage the situation. 

Post # 7
774 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Lizzy723:  I think you are really overreacting. She’s trying to be nice and compliment you, although it is in a socially awkward way. It sounds to me like you are just committed to disliking her. My two cents. 

Post # 9
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Yeah I wouldn’t be that upset. She’s just speaking her mind, even if you find it rude. I would just ignore it. No reason to ruin a Thanksgiving over it. 

Post # 10
6457 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@DuckEBee:  +1

Sounds like she’s trying to be nice but doesn’t really know how to do it. It seems like you’re really overreacting about this.

I also read your last post about your FMIL and for the most part it just sounds like you don’t like her and you look for any reason to continue not liking her. 

Perhaps things will seem better when your FI is no longer living with her.

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