Future MIL to help bride getting ready??

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

If you want her there and she wants to be there, go for it. I personally see myself getting ready with my fmil as well, especially since her daughter will be a BM

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

As long as your groom and MIL don’t mind then I don’t see the problem. I can see it as an oppertunity for the groom, groomsmen and fathers etc to have some guy time while the girls can have some girl time. I think its a great idea.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@thumpurr:  This would only be poor etiquette if your own mother were being excluded.  My fiancée and her mother do not get along, so I expect FW won’t want her mother helping her prepare.  FW gets along well with my mother, but it would simply be cruel for us to exclude FW’s mother, while including mine.

In your case, I can’t see anything wrong with it, so long as neither your fmil nor fh see a problem.  I would recommend getting FH to make sure she doesn’t want to be helping him, before asking.  Though, it could also be that he wants her distracted so she doesn’t bother him.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I think it will be lovely for her to be there. I plan on asking my FMIL to help me get ready, but leave her the freedom to move between the ladies’ prep room and the groomsmen’s prep room as she chooses!

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